How Can You Speed Up the Process and Have Your Spouse Back in Your Arms?
Pain can be physical or emotional.
In many cases, I would give anything that my emotional pain be replaced by very intense physical pain.
You might tell me why? Well, physical pain heals quicker, once it happened, that is it, the body start healing and getting closer to recovery.
The emotional pain is a bit different.
That type of pain can really disturb your day to day productivity, it can make you look like you got hit by a train at 1000 miles per hour, a pain that is so deep that you rather jump off the Golden Bridge.
Now, is that really true? Where am I feeling the pain.
For most, a heart break is when the heart is filled with emotional pain, obviously, and the area of the heart break is felt in the heart, without really having the heart attack feeling.
It is almost as is though.
You need to do a few things here.
First, you need to find out the source of the pain.
I mean where is your pain located? Is it the heart? The head? Where can you narrow down the location of your pain? Then ask yourself: Can I justify this feeling of pain? Can I accept this feeling to come into my daily activity and SCREW ME UP.
Then you can ask: Can I forget about this feeling? Can I just let it go? Can I ignore it? Then ask: Will I left this feeling get out of my system? Will I make it disappear? Then: If you can make it disappear, when will that happen? Will it take a week? A month? A year? All this questions can have a yes or no questions.
It doesn't matter.
However, what matters is that you were able to narrow down the feeling, examining it in different angle, studied it and accept that this feeling is like any other feeling your had in your life, but now, it is amplified because it is more emotional.
Whatever the answer is to these questions, more you repeat these questions, and more you are getting closer and closer to the healing process.
You are healing every day.
That is the beauty of all this.
You are going through some positive healing.
Now, every time you feel down, repeat all these questions out loud, in your car, on the way to work, at home, at the gym when you are jogging 10 miles/minute:).
When you face your issues, and this is what happens with this exercise, you are facing the demons that are plaguing you and you are finding ways to get them out of your system and moving forward.
Once you mastered this questioning techniques, you can go and start understanding your relationship, either to try reconciling, or look for something new.
Obviously, if you are reading this article, you are trying to rekindle the love you had with your spouse.
That is a fact.
However, do you feel it is the right choice to rekindle your romance? Do you feel that he/she is the right one for your? You need to make sure if this relationship is worth saving or moving to the next one.
Question you need to ask yourself: WHERE DID YOU GO WRONG? You need to be objective, even though it feels almost impossible.
You need to really evaluate the pros and cons of your relationship.
But in this case, you need to focus on the POSITIVE, for the moment that is.
You need to get back to what was appealing about them in the beginning? You need to put yourself in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, because this is the place you need to be if you want to rekindle your relationship.
With the complexity of life surrounding us, the bills to pay, kids, mortgages, all of this can suck the health out of your romance.
Question you need to ask yourself? What attracted you to your partner? Was it purely physical? Emotional? How much did you have in common? Was is a set up because of your culture and tradition? What really caught your eyes to your spouse? Ask yourself these following questions: Were you attracted physically to each other? Followed the same political views? Love the same food? Enjoyed the same music? Play a sport together? Same ideas about family and children? Share spiritual and moral beliefs? Whatever you remember united you to each other, there was a foundation there that was built and throughout the years, you built love over that.
Then you need to look at all the positives you had in the relationship and move from there.
In other words, what made you fall in love with them from the get-go? Focus on these and will provide you with more insightful information on the next article.
Good luck
In many cases, I would give anything that my emotional pain be replaced by very intense physical pain.
You might tell me why? Well, physical pain heals quicker, once it happened, that is it, the body start healing and getting closer to recovery.
The emotional pain is a bit different.
That type of pain can really disturb your day to day productivity, it can make you look like you got hit by a train at 1000 miles per hour, a pain that is so deep that you rather jump off the Golden Bridge.
Now, is that really true? Where am I feeling the pain.
For most, a heart break is when the heart is filled with emotional pain, obviously, and the area of the heart break is felt in the heart, without really having the heart attack feeling.
It is almost as is though.
You need to do a few things here.
First, you need to find out the source of the pain.
I mean where is your pain located? Is it the heart? The head? Where can you narrow down the location of your pain? Then ask yourself: Can I justify this feeling of pain? Can I accept this feeling to come into my daily activity and SCREW ME UP.
Then you can ask: Can I forget about this feeling? Can I just let it go? Can I ignore it? Then ask: Will I left this feeling get out of my system? Will I make it disappear? Then: If you can make it disappear, when will that happen? Will it take a week? A month? A year? All this questions can have a yes or no questions.
It doesn't matter.
However, what matters is that you were able to narrow down the feeling, examining it in different angle, studied it and accept that this feeling is like any other feeling your had in your life, but now, it is amplified because it is more emotional.
Whatever the answer is to these questions, more you repeat these questions, and more you are getting closer and closer to the healing process.
You are healing every day.
That is the beauty of all this.
You are going through some positive healing.
Now, every time you feel down, repeat all these questions out loud, in your car, on the way to work, at home, at the gym when you are jogging 10 miles/minute:).
When you face your issues, and this is what happens with this exercise, you are facing the demons that are plaguing you and you are finding ways to get them out of your system and moving forward.
Once you mastered this questioning techniques, you can go and start understanding your relationship, either to try reconciling, or look for something new.
Obviously, if you are reading this article, you are trying to rekindle the love you had with your spouse.
That is a fact.
However, do you feel it is the right choice to rekindle your romance? Do you feel that he/she is the right one for your? You need to make sure if this relationship is worth saving or moving to the next one.
Question you need to ask yourself: WHERE DID YOU GO WRONG? You need to be objective, even though it feels almost impossible.
You need to really evaluate the pros and cons of your relationship.
But in this case, you need to focus on the POSITIVE, for the moment that is.
You need to get back to what was appealing about them in the beginning? You need to put yourself in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, because this is the place you need to be if you want to rekindle your relationship.
With the complexity of life surrounding us, the bills to pay, kids, mortgages, all of this can suck the health out of your romance.
Question you need to ask yourself? What attracted you to your partner? Was it purely physical? Emotional? How much did you have in common? Was is a set up because of your culture and tradition? What really caught your eyes to your spouse? Ask yourself these following questions: Were you attracted physically to each other? Followed the same political views? Love the same food? Enjoyed the same music? Play a sport together? Same ideas about family and children? Share spiritual and moral beliefs? Whatever you remember united you to each other, there was a foundation there that was built and throughout the years, you built love over that.
Then you need to look at all the positives you had in the relationship and move from there.
In other words, what made you fall in love with them from the get-go? Focus on these and will provide you with more insightful information on the next article.
Good luck