How to Deal With Difficult Children?
If you have a difficult child at home and you find it difficult dealing with him, you're not the only one. The children who are unmotivated or resistant can turn into difficult children. It can be challenging for the parents to deal with such children.
Many parents complain that no matter how hard they try to change the child's behavior, they fail. For such children, new tricks should be used. The same trick which works for one child cannot work for another child. Hence, the parents should understand their child. The behavior of the child should be analyzed. Know your child, his behavior and how he reacts in particular situations. The resistant situations and problematic areas should be studied. Once you understand the child's behavior, you would be able to find solutions that work for your child.
You should have a friendly and loving relationship with the child. Be engaged with your child in some fun activities. Spend some time with the child to know his likes and dislikes. Sit with your child and give the consequences. For example: If your child shouts at you, then decide a suitable punishment for the child. The punishment you decide should be reasonable and doable for the child. You or elder family members should explain the rules and consequences to the child. They
can provide the warnings also.
Try not to be bossy with your child. You need to deal with your difficult child without being bossy or harsh. Be calm while talking to your child. Parents often lose their cool while dealing with their difficult children. This spoils and annoys the child. Keep a check on your temper.
Praises and compliments work for most of the children. If the child behaves in a good manner with you and other family members, you must praise the child. It can have a positive impact on the child's behavior. It can encourage your child to follow the same behavior.
Always focus on making your child responsible for his own actions. If you decide the consequences for all the actions, no matter good or bad, you can change your child's behavior. If you feel that your child misbehaves at the school, talk to the teachers and principals and decide the effective consequences.
Many children find it difficult to deal with their emotions. The parents should teach their child to handle the emotions. Parents cannot blame their child to be misbehaved or difficult to deal with. In many cases, the behavior of the parents plays a major role. If the parents of a young child keep on fighting and the kid sees that daily, he would do the same as he might feel that fighting is a good way of behaving. The parents should be a role model for their children.
Appreciating and rewarding the child is important, but do not over-do it as it can spoil the child. Example: Give him a chocolate if your child cleans his room. If needed, you can take professional help for dealing with difficult children.
Many parents complain that no matter how hard they try to change the child's behavior, they fail. For such children, new tricks should be used. The same trick which works for one child cannot work for another child. Hence, the parents should understand their child. The behavior of the child should be analyzed. Know your child, his behavior and how he reacts in particular situations. The resistant situations and problematic areas should be studied. Once you understand the child's behavior, you would be able to find solutions that work for your child.
You should have a friendly and loving relationship with the child. Be engaged with your child in some fun activities. Spend some time with the child to know his likes and dislikes. Sit with your child and give the consequences. For example: If your child shouts at you, then decide a suitable punishment for the child. The punishment you decide should be reasonable and doable for the child. You or elder family members should explain the rules and consequences to the child. They
can provide the warnings also.
Try not to be bossy with your child. You need to deal with your difficult child without being bossy or harsh. Be calm while talking to your child. Parents often lose their cool while dealing with their difficult children. This spoils and annoys the child. Keep a check on your temper.
Praises and compliments work for most of the children. If the child behaves in a good manner with you and other family members, you must praise the child. It can have a positive impact on the child's behavior. It can encourage your child to follow the same behavior.
Always focus on making your child responsible for his own actions. If you decide the consequences for all the actions, no matter good or bad, you can change your child's behavior. If you feel that your child misbehaves at the school, talk to the teachers and principals and decide the effective consequences.
Many children find it difficult to deal with their emotions. The parents should teach their child to handle the emotions. Parents cannot blame their child to be misbehaved or difficult to deal with. In many cases, the behavior of the parents plays a major role. If the parents of a young child keep on fighting and the kid sees that daily, he would do the same as he might feel that fighting is a good way of behaving. The parents should be a role model for their children.
Appreciating and rewarding the child is important, but do not over-do it as it can spoil the child. Example: Give him a chocolate if your child cleans his room. If needed, you can take professional help for dealing with difficult children.