How To Fall In Love Again With Your Partner
Most of us can remember falling in love at least once, regardless of whether it was reciprocated or not! That walking on air feeling, the need to be with or hear from the person all the time.
The inability to concentrate on boring things like work or real life! But this feeling does not last.
And that is probably a good thing, because not a lot would get done in the world if everyone went around feeling this way! But for love to last, it has to move to the next stage.
A more steady, and workable stage.
But wouldn't it be great if it was possible to keep all those crazy in love feelings in stage 2, stage 3 and so on? Well, the difference between the first crazy stage and the rest is that little work is needed at stage one to tell your partner how you feel.
It's all very natural and spontaneous.
But as time moves on we can forget that folks needed to hear that they are still important and attractive to you.
Often with time we start to take partners for granted, hence a little more effort is needed.
Here are some tips to help smooth that journey to the follow up stages love.
Go On A Criticism Diet Once you start to find fault in each other, it is a slippery slope downwards.
Remember when you first got together and they could do no wrong? Then suddenly the things that you thought were really cute or didn't even notice started to become really irritating? Well that must be brought to an immediate halt if you wish to save your partnership.
And it should be mutual.
Constant criticism never does what the person doing it purports to achieve.
In fact it does the complete opposite.
It also usually has more to do with ego and making someone else feel inferior than trying to solve a problem.
The thing to do therefore is when you feel a criticism coming, swap it for something about the person that you DO like.
Feed that love angel instead of the criticism monster and you will find that the things you like about the person will be brought to the fore much more than the negatives about them.
It is training your brain to see your partner in a positive light as the default as opposed to a negative light before all else.
You can still address important issues honestly but without savage critique.
The inability to concentrate on boring things like work or real life! But this feeling does not last.
And that is probably a good thing, because not a lot would get done in the world if everyone went around feeling this way! But for love to last, it has to move to the next stage.
A more steady, and workable stage.
But wouldn't it be great if it was possible to keep all those crazy in love feelings in stage 2, stage 3 and so on? Well, the difference between the first crazy stage and the rest is that little work is needed at stage one to tell your partner how you feel.
It's all very natural and spontaneous.
But as time moves on we can forget that folks needed to hear that they are still important and attractive to you.
Often with time we start to take partners for granted, hence a little more effort is needed.
Here are some tips to help smooth that journey to the follow up stages love.
Go On A Criticism Diet Once you start to find fault in each other, it is a slippery slope downwards.
Remember when you first got together and they could do no wrong? Then suddenly the things that you thought were really cute or didn't even notice started to become really irritating? Well that must be brought to an immediate halt if you wish to save your partnership.
And it should be mutual.
Constant criticism never does what the person doing it purports to achieve.
In fact it does the complete opposite.
It also usually has more to do with ego and making someone else feel inferior than trying to solve a problem.
The thing to do therefore is when you feel a criticism coming, swap it for something about the person that you DO like.
Feed that love angel instead of the criticism monster and you will find that the things you like about the person will be brought to the fore much more than the negatives about them.
It is training your brain to see your partner in a positive light as the default as opposed to a negative light before all else.
You can still address important issues honestly but without savage critique.