You Can"t Please Everyone, So Stop Destroying Yourself Trying
With over seven billion people residing on this planet you will never be able to please everyone.
The moment you try to please one set of people, you are upsetting another set of people.
You turn around to try to get the votes of those you upset, not only will you be upsetting the first set of individuals, you will be upsetting a new crowd.
Then you try to reach out to the new crowd to get them to like you, but you will now be alienating the popular crowd.
Next thing you know, you are twisted up like a knot or a pretzel completely drained, broken and empty.
Why? Because you now have nothing for yourself.
How could you, you were too busy trying to please everyone else while ignoring yourself.
STOP! You will drive yourself insane if you are constantly trying to please everyone.
You are no longer in high school trying to get in good with the popular crowd.
Moreover, if you were to really stop and think back to high school, were the popular club really nice to you? Chances are they weren't.
As a grown-up, you can now choose who you want to have in your life and whose life you want to be a part of.
Most importantly, you can finally stop being a people-pleaser.
Not everyone has to like you and that is fine.
That won't be a problem if you love yourself just fine.
If we lack self-love, then we will be prone to regressing to our high school days where we longed to be part of the popular club and we will do anything to be friends with the most popular smart girl who seem to attract all the smart, good-looking boys.
Let me let you in on a little secret, sshhh...
don't tell anyone, but here it is.
Your life will go on even if the popular club do not like you.
The world will not come to a stop.
It will keep on turning.
I wasn't light skinned like the popular girls, but I managed to catch the eye of one of the light skinned boys, who was also one of the smartest boys in the school.
It so happened that I was dark-skinned and his ex-smart girlfriend was the smartest girl in school and was very light-skinned.
Yes, skin colour was very much a factor growing up.
Having that cute guy like me was my claim to fame in high school.
I actually got more respect.
Then I grew up and realized how young and foolish we were in high school.
Unfortunately, many of us carry that people pleasing, wanting others to like us over into our adulthood.
We spend, no, we waste so much time trying to please everyone.
People will not like you, they will not like what you do just because they can.
That does not mean that you need to change what you do every time someone has a problem with what you are doing or with how you are doing what you are doing.
You do not have to be part of the popular crowd anymore.
Humans are interesting creatures.
If they know that they can get away with using you, they will do so.
Granted, not all humans are like that, thankfully.
But if you keep on being around people who are constantly causing you to twist up in a pretzel, you may believe that everyone is like that.
If we are constantly twisting up ourselves for everyone in our life, we need to change our circle of everybody.
You can't change the people who are in your general "everybody", however, you can change the "everybody" that you are around.
Any and all changes in our life begins with us.
There is nothing more backbreaking than trying to please every single person, especially when it comes to our families.
Families can take us for granted if we do not learn to set boundaries and put our feet down.
It is not selfish to be for yourself.
Matter-of-fact, you cannot fully help or serve anyone, including family, friends or colleagues at work, if you are not taking time for yourself.
That is why there is something called vacation, days off and sick days and guess what? You can apply all those to families too.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, chances are you are doing too much for everyone else while ignoring you.
It takes a lot of strength to stand on your own, away from the crowd and forging your own path.
There will be individuals who will not like the fact that you are no longer compliant and submissive and they will do everything to bring you back in line to obey them.
In other words, they will try to force you to be their lap dogs.
Families also can and will use every trick in the book to manipulate you into stepping back in line with what they think you should be doing and what the family thinks you should be doing.
This is especially true of the senior members of the family who are so focused on pomps and circumstance.
You are the Master of your happiness and your journey.
Do not allow anyone to cause you to deviate from your Path.
You know where you are going others do not.
So do not allow anyone to brow beat you into submission or to cow you down so you become subservient.
Your life belongs to you and it is not the life of others.
You were not placed on this earth to be a clone of anyone.
Always bear in mind that you are unique and it is that uniqueness that will carry you towards your passion.
Live the full expansion of yourself, however, you can't do that if you are ignoring yourself because you are trying to please everyone else.
You will never be happy and you will never be able to create and live a passionate and fulfilling life.
When you stop being for others, you may lose some of those friendships and that is okay.
Both of your purposes have been served in each other's lives.
The way is now being made clear for others to step into your life.
A new life and new relationships are making their way to you.
When you can stand powerfully in the life that is true for you and you are now living your truth, you can share that truth with others.
You now know that not everyone will agree with you or be for you, however, there is no need to argue your life with anyone.
If you are living your truth, you won't have to.
You are no longer looking to be part of the in-crowd.
You now have your life and that is the life that is working for you.
Stand your ground and do not allow anyone to violate your boundaries or force you to bend to their will.
When you can live and stand powerfully in the life that is your truth, you will respect yourself so you won't be hankering with the need for others to respect you.
By you no longer trying to please everyone, you may lose the respect of others, however, you have gained respect and love for yourself.
Something that may have fell through the cracks when we were trying to please everyone.
There is nothing more powerful and intoxicating than standing firmly in our own power when we are no longer twisting ourselves up trying to be for everyone.
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The moment you try to please one set of people, you are upsetting another set of people.
You turn around to try to get the votes of those you upset, not only will you be upsetting the first set of individuals, you will be upsetting a new crowd.
Then you try to reach out to the new crowd to get them to like you, but you will now be alienating the popular crowd.
Next thing you know, you are twisted up like a knot or a pretzel completely drained, broken and empty.
Why? Because you now have nothing for yourself.
How could you, you were too busy trying to please everyone else while ignoring yourself.
STOP! You will drive yourself insane if you are constantly trying to please everyone.
You are no longer in high school trying to get in good with the popular crowd.
Moreover, if you were to really stop and think back to high school, were the popular club really nice to you? Chances are they weren't.
As a grown-up, you can now choose who you want to have in your life and whose life you want to be a part of.
Most importantly, you can finally stop being a people-pleaser.
Not everyone has to like you and that is fine.
That won't be a problem if you love yourself just fine.
If we lack self-love, then we will be prone to regressing to our high school days where we longed to be part of the popular club and we will do anything to be friends with the most popular smart girl who seem to attract all the smart, good-looking boys.
Let me let you in on a little secret, sshhh...
don't tell anyone, but here it is.
Your life will go on even if the popular club do not like you.
The world will not come to a stop.
It will keep on turning.
I wasn't light skinned like the popular girls, but I managed to catch the eye of one of the light skinned boys, who was also one of the smartest boys in the school.
It so happened that I was dark-skinned and his ex-smart girlfriend was the smartest girl in school and was very light-skinned.
Yes, skin colour was very much a factor growing up.
Having that cute guy like me was my claim to fame in high school.
I actually got more respect.
Then I grew up and realized how young and foolish we were in high school.
Unfortunately, many of us carry that people pleasing, wanting others to like us over into our adulthood.
We spend, no, we waste so much time trying to please everyone.
People will not like you, they will not like what you do just because they can.
That does not mean that you need to change what you do every time someone has a problem with what you are doing or with how you are doing what you are doing.
You do not have to be part of the popular crowd anymore.
Humans are interesting creatures.
If they know that they can get away with using you, they will do so.
Granted, not all humans are like that, thankfully.
But if you keep on being around people who are constantly causing you to twist up in a pretzel, you may believe that everyone is like that.
If we are constantly twisting up ourselves for everyone in our life, we need to change our circle of everybody.
You can't change the people who are in your general "everybody", however, you can change the "everybody" that you are around.
Any and all changes in our life begins with us.
There is nothing more backbreaking than trying to please every single person, especially when it comes to our families.
Families can take us for granted if we do not learn to set boundaries and put our feet down.
It is not selfish to be for yourself.
Matter-of-fact, you cannot fully help or serve anyone, including family, friends or colleagues at work, if you are not taking time for yourself.
That is why there is something called vacation, days off and sick days and guess what? You can apply all those to families too.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, chances are you are doing too much for everyone else while ignoring you.
It takes a lot of strength to stand on your own, away from the crowd and forging your own path.
There will be individuals who will not like the fact that you are no longer compliant and submissive and they will do everything to bring you back in line to obey them.
In other words, they will try to force you to be their lap dogs.
Families also can and will use every trick in the book to manipulate you into stepping back in line with what they think you should be doing and what the family thinks you should be doing.
This is especially true of the senior members of the family who are so focused on pomps and circumstance.
You are the Master of your happiness and your journey.
Do not allow anyone to cause you to deviate from your Path.
You know where you are going others do not.
So do not allow anyone to brow beat you into submission or to cow you down so you become subservient.
Your life belongs to you and it is not the life of others.
You were not placed on this earth to be a clone of anyone.
Always bear in mind that you are unique and it is that uniqueness that will carry you towards your passion.
Live the full expansion of yourself, however, you can't do that if you are ignoring yourself because you are trying to please everyone else.
You will never be happy and you will never be able to create and live a passionate and fulfilling life.
When you stop being for others, you may lose some of those friendships and that is okay.
Both of your purposes have been served in each other's lives.
The way is now being made clear for others to step into your life.
A new life and new relationships are making their way to you.
When you can stand powerfully in the life that is true for you and you are now living your truth, you can share that truth with others.
You now know that not everyone will agree with you or be for you, however, there is no need to argue your life with anyone.
If you are living your truth, you won't have to.
You are no longer looking to be part of the in-crowd.
You now have your life and that is the life that is working for you.
Stand your ground and do not allow anyone to violate your boundaries or force you to bend to their will.
When you can live and stand powerfully in the life that is your truth, you will respect yourself so you won't be hankering with the need for others to respect you.
By you no longer trying to please everyone, you may lose the respect of others, however, you have gained respect and love for yourself.
Something that may have fell through the cracks when we were trying to please everyone.
There is nothing more powerful and intoxicating than standing firmly in our own power when we are no longer twisting ourselves up trying to be for everyone.
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