To the Present and Future Single Parents -Who's Fault Is It?

How many out there are single parents, or know of a single parent?

How many out there know of a dead beat parent?

How many out there are dead beat parents and know it?

Chances are most of you know someone fitting the description to my first and second questions. I'm sure no one has the guts to stand up and admit the third question though. To be a deadbeat parent is shameful in the eyes of society, the law, GOD, and many times in the eyes of the deadbeat parent themselves.

So why is it such a common thing in today's culture?    

I am going to give my brief input on how I feel about single parenthood. Then I am going to tell you a few reasons why I think our society as a whole is dealing with this destructive "epidemic".

Single Parenthood – My Feelings

OK… To be blunt about how I feel in regards to single parenthood, I believe it is inexcusable. Here's why:

Two people don't have to be together to be active parents their child's life.

Though it would be ideal for both parents to be together under the same roof, happy and in love, I do understand that unpleasant situations happen. Two people can grow apart and fall out of love; however I don't believe that it is responsible, nor fair for a parent to simply abandon responsibility simply because they don't get along with their former partner. If they were adult enough to make the child, then they should be adult enough to see ensure that the child is raised up to the best of their abilities.

It Was Your Choice

Sometimes a child is a result of a mishap such as failed protection/birth control. Most the time however a child is a result of having unprotected sex repeatedly. Common sense should tell people that having unprotected can lead to babies. That means every time unprotected sex happens both parties should fully understand and except the risk that a child (or STD) might be the outcome. RIGHT?

Sadly, many will gladly take the risk knowing what the outcome could be. "I'll pull out; It feels better raw; I don't have protection on me; I got caught up;" All excuses that are not expectable. At the very least, if you're going to have unprotected sex, please do so with an upstanding person that you know well, respect, and are in a relationship with. That way if a child is made, you have a SLIGHTLY better chance of avoiding single parenthood.

Single Parenthood Disclaimer

There are times where being a single parent is in the best interest of the child. This article isn't directed towards those situations. Situations of addition, abuse, rape, or any other extreme situations all are reasons why someone would be better off  dealing with single parenthood. Bottom line – Do what's best for your child.

Now if I struck a nerve or stired up some emotions in you, chances are you have had some type of dealings in this topic. I wanted to reach out and get your opinion? Don't be shy!

• What do you feel is the reason behind this problem?
• What do you think the solution is to fix this problem?
• What are some are some of your personal experiences with single parenthood.

Larry W. Lockett Jr.

Founder, President of Filth Moth Instrumetnals