Real From Fake - Exploding the Myth of the Average Female"s Orgasm
Everyone thinks that they know what the average female's orgasm is.
Actually defining it has proved a lot more difficult than expected.
Even the (in)famous sex scientist Alfred Kinsey had to carefully select women for his experiments as he found that some women could fake orgasm so convincingly that even he was confused.
While there is no surefire way to tell if a woman genuinely had an orgasm or not, there are a number of clues that point towards an orgasm being real.
Orgasms for Women To reliably tell whether a woman has a real orgasm or not, we first have to know about the process of a real orgasm.
As the stimulation builds up the sensations get to a point where her limbic system (The regulating part of the body that we have little control over) takes over.
The limbic systems makes the muscles in the lower pelvis contract, particularly a muscle called the pubococcygeus (Interestingly this is the same muscle that Kegel muscles exercise which is the reason why squeezing the vaginal muscles increases orgasmic control!).
The pubococcygeus stretches all the way from the vagina to the anus and as it contracts it makes the anus rhythmically open and close.
This is one of the surest signs that she genuinely had an orgasm.
The Average Female Orgasm Reflex One of the interesting things about the average female's orgasm is that it is a reflex.
This should mean that any stimulation should make her orgasm, however it doesn't always work like this.
The mental connection is very strong in women and many women cannot orgasm without both being stimulated! This is something important for guys to remember as making love to her mind with a sexual vibe and erotic words is almost as important as the physical part! Words are also important after orgasm too in a different way.
Right after the orgasm the hormone oxytocin will be pumping through her, making her feel 'loved-up' and excited.
This is the time when you can use words to test when she is ready to go again.
Listen to her breathing and heart-rate and when it starts to get excited again you can try for a multiple orgasm (Listening to heart-rate is such a good indicator that Kinsey himself used it to tell real orgasms from fake ones!).
Understanding The Average Female's Orgasm Once you understand the processes that all women go through when they orgasm you will see that there are certain 'universals' that are true about all orgasms.
Once you understand this then you can start to discover what is unique to your partner.
Combining these two will give you knowledge of everything that you need to know for multiple orgasms and other advanced orgasms.
Actually defining it has proved a lot more difficult than expected.
Even the (in)famous sex scientist Alfred Kinsey had to carefully select women for his experiments as he found that some women could fake orgasm so convincingly that even he was confused.
While there is no surefire way to tell if a woman genuinely had an orgasm or not, there are a number of clues that point towards an orgasm being real.
Orgasms for Women To reliably tell whether a woman has a real orgasm or not, we first have to know about the process of a real orgasm.
As the stimulation builds up the sensations get to a point where her limbic system (The regulating part of the body that we have little control over) takes over.
The limbic systems makes the muscles in the lower pelvis contract, particularly a muscle called the pubococcygeus (Interestingly this is the same muscle that Kegel muscles exercise which is the reason why squeezing the vaginal muscles increases orgasmic control!).
The pubococcygeus stretches all the way from the vagina to the anus and as it contracts it makes the anus rhythmically open and close.
This is one of the surest signs that she genuinely had an orgasm.
The Average Female Orgasm Reflex One of the interesting things about the average female's orgasm is that it is a reflex.
This should mean that any stimulation should make her orgasm, however it doesn't always work like this.
The mental connection is very strong in women and many women cannot orgasm without both being stimulated! This is something important for guys to remember as making love to her mind with a sexual vibe and erotic words is almost as important as the physical part! Words are also important after orgasm too in a different way.
Right after the orgasm the hormone oxytocin will be pumping through her, making her feel 'loved-up' and excited.
This is the time when you can use words to test when she is ready to go again.
Listen to her breathing and heart-rate and when it starts to get excited again you can try for a multiple orgasm (Listening to heart-rate is such a good indicator that Kinsey himself used it to tell real orgasms from fake ones!).
Understanding The Average Female's Orgasm Once you understand the processes that all women go through when they orgasm you will see that there are certain 'universals' that are true about all orgasms.
Once you understand this then you can start to discover what is unique to your partner.
Combining these two will give you knowledge of everything that you need to know for multiple orgasms and other advanced orgasms.