They say "absence makes the heart grow fonder.
" Which is certainly one of the more popular reasons to go NC (no contact) on your ex.
But can you really get your ex back after no contact? Of course you can! Although, whether you will or not is another matter entirely.
One that is dependent on the choices you'll make, the steps you'll take, and a slew of other factors simply impossible to know.
That said...
Let's imagine that you DO get back with your ex, if for no other reason than because couples reunite "all the time," and you're a smart cookie whose not afraid to put in the preparation and work necessary.
Go you! All we need to do now is make absolutely sure we don't commit a really silly, easy-to-avoid mistake, one that will lose you your ex all over again.
And after all that hard work you would had put in...
how disheartening an ending would that be? Okay, before we look at what that mistake could be, let's first look at why you might go "no contact" on your ex in the first place, just so we are both on the same page here.
6 reasons to go "no contact" -

1. It allows you to heal, to cool down, to compose yourself.
   
2. It create a void for your ex to miss you, to wonder what you're up to, for curiosity to play-out.
   
3. It's damage control; no-contact = no bad words, and no planting "reasons to hate you" seeds in their head.
   
4. It gives you space to get organized, to correct bad habits, and put a plan into action.
   
5. It puts the power back in your hands, which you invariably lose at breakup point.
   
6. It just might COMPEL your ex to make contact with you.
   

There's a lot we can discuss, at length I'd imagine...
just from the 6 points above.
But for now, I feel it is especially relevant that you heed point number 4: that is, to "get organized," "correct bad habits," and "put a plan into action.
" There's something both obvious and important to state here.
It's the "big mistake" that I spoke of earlier.
To put it simply, you broke up for a reason.
And you see, whether you get your ex back by going NC, or by any other method...
should the original reason for your breakup still remain unresolved...
Your relationship is toast! Maybe not right away.
Who knows? But it's fair to say it'll only be a matter of time, I'm sure you'll agree.
And that's the silly mistake you do not want to make.
The pain you're experiencing right now is bad enough, right? Emotionally, you have taken quite a hit.
So imagine what it might be like to go through all the effort to win back your ex, only to lose them all over again because you both failed to resolve the bottom-line cause.
Ouch! Sometimes, resolving the original cause of the breakup IS the route to getting your ex back.
So if it's not obvious to you now, go spend some time to figure out why you both broke up in the first place.
Then, once you isolate the problem, or problems, you must ask yourself honestly:

1. "Can I resolve this problem?" - sometimes it may not be possible, in which case you may have to agree to disagree, or accept "what is" and move on.
   
2. "Am I prepared to resolve this problem?" - if you can resolve the problem, that does not mean you're willing to.
   So you must be honest with yourself.
   

Some problems are simple, for example it might be a habit you need to lose, or a new habit you need to form! All of the above hinges on 2 things: that you can correctly determine why you were "dumped" in the first place, and that the reason is something within your power to resolve.
When we lose the one we love, we are thrown into chaos.
The emotional pain of losing your ex, those dark thoughts that you may never be with them again, or that someone else will take your place...
they're relentless.
Sadly, it is right at this most difficult time in your life, that you need most to gather strength and be in control.
Every little word you say, and every action you take, can make the difference between a blissful "make up," or losing your ex for good.
As such, I strongly advise you to take full advantage of this "no contact" period to get clear in your head, to improve yourself, and to make those changes you identified earlier.
If your ex is someone who is very special in your life, someone who gave your life meaning and direction, then I'm sure you will be more than willing to dig deep and do all that is within your power to be together again.
It's amazing what we can do when there's so much at stake, we just need to ensure we don't let our emotions take us off track.
It's better to say nothing than to say the wrong thing.
It's better to "wait and see" than to rush in and risk making matters worse.
You'll need willpower to follow the advise here, to follow logic over emotion.
You have to fight your natural urges.
But the reward for demonstrating that willpower is a much greater probability of being a couple again, and staying that way!