How To Cope With Unrequited Love
Some people even commit suicide when they experience the bittersweet blow of unrequited love.
Unrequited love is one of the frequently used themes of love song lyrics.
If you are one of the victims of this one-sided affair, you better wake up and learn how to get over this soon, before the condition gets worse.
Clinging onto something hopeless is just a waste of time.
You already told him or her about your feelings, and turns out they don't feel the same way.
You can't make them love you back, because as a person, they also have a choice whom to give their love to.
Here are some helpful pointers you can get, so getting over that somebody will be easier for you: · Accept what's happening.
The first stage of getting over is acceptance.
You've already denied, which is why you were crying in the first few days.
Now it's time to accept.
Accept that he or she is not that into you.
Accept the fact that you two are not going to be together.
It might be too harsh to put it that way, but it's the only option.
· Divert your attention.
Your world may have revolved around them for the longest time, but not anymore.
You have to set aside everything about them, and the best way is through diversions.
Watch a movie with your friends, or go to a vacation.
Have some bonding time with your family.
Catch up on some reading.
There's a whole lot more to do than just crying over unreturned feelings.
· Be open to the thought of finding someone new.
Of course you thought he or she was the one, but you already tried.
Just because you love them, doesn't mean they'll feel the same for you.
Stop thinking that your dream person is the only one who can make you happy, because there are so many people who love you.
Allow yourself to admire others.
It is the start to a wider range of perspective.
It is a good way to get over your heartbreak.
· Don't blame anyone, not yourself, not the person who broke your heart, and not the friend who introduced you to him or her.
It is nobody's fault that things didn't turn out the way you want them to.
Sad events happen as a part of life's tricks to make you stronger and keep your head up.
· This next pointer is not very much recommended, but it may help so you can get over the person.
Think of that person's flaws, rather than the usual "putting them on a high pedestal".
Even your ideal person is not perfect.
This practice is a kind of defense mechanism, or some might call it sour-graping, but hey, it might work for you.
· Indulge in comfort food.
The depression stage is not easy to deal with.
So be ready with a bottle of beer or a box of chocolates.
They can be good alternatives to help relieve your feeling.
· Set your mind to move on.
Nostalgia can only worsen the pain.
You should keep moving forward, because time does not tick counter-clockwise.
Give yourself a break.
Breathe and move on.