How to Get a Shy Guy to Open Up! Here is How to Make Him Open Up Without Trying Too Hard
Find yourself being drawn to a shy guy but feeling frustrated that you can't get him to open up? It can be a bit of work trying to get a shy guy to open up to you.
The idea is to make him feel secure with you and here are a few ways that will help him bond better with you.
Get him to feel comfortable Making him feel comfortable with you should be of primary importance to you.
Unnecessary airs and tantrums will make him feel even more nervous around you.
He has to know that you are not one of those wannabe divas who will be impossible to deal with.
Be a normal and genuine person and he will begin to get comfortable with you.
Start communicating Open up the channels of communication.
Communication is a two way process and when you start opening up to him, he too, will see that he can be open with you.
When you comfortably expose your vulnerable side to him he will also begin to reciprocate.
Don't judge Don't judge him if he tells you something that is too personal, embarrassing or private.
The moment he even gets a feel of someone judging him he will clamp up again.
Don't come across as too opinionated If you are an opinionated person then you have to take stock of the situation and control yourself.
Being opinionated is going to put him back on his guard and that is detrimental to making him open up to you.
Be honest but not brutal However, you also need to make him feel like you are an honest person and are not intent on mollycoddling him or are not trying to make him come close to you by not telling him the truth.
You have to be you with him.
So be honest with him but when you give your opinion don't be brutal.
Learn to listen to him If you go yak yak yak all the time them he will not get an opportunity to open up to you.
Be a patient listener, one who doesn't need to interrupt him with an anecdote or story every time he starts to say something.
Just listen to him.
Probe gently Sometimes you need to probe a little to make a shy guy open up to you.
Begin asking him questions and spend enough time with him so that he begins to feel like he can depend upon you.
Don't be too pushy but keep enquiring about what you want to know gently and you will begin to get your answers.
The idea is to make him feel secure with you and here are a few ways that will help him bond better with you.
Get him to feel comfortable Making him feel comfortable with you should be of primary importance to you.
Unnecessary airs and tantrums will make him feel even more nervous around you.
He has to know that you are not one of those wannabe divas who will be impossible to deal with.
Be a normal and genuine person and he will begin to get comfortable with you.
Start communicating Open up the channels of communication.
Communication is a two way process and when you start opening up to him, he too, will see that he can be open with you.
When you comfortably expose your vulnerable side to him he will also begin to reciprocate.
Don't judge Don't judge him if he tells you something that is too personal, embarrassing or private.
The moment he even gets a feel of someone judging him he will clamp up again.
Don't come across as too opinionated If you are an opinionated person then you have to take stock of the situation and control yourself.
Being opinionated is going to put him back on his guard and that is detrimental to making him open up to you.
Be honest but not brutal However, you also need to make him feel like you are an honest person and are not intent on mollycoddling him or are not trying to make him come close to you by not telling him the truth.
You have to be you with him.
So be honest with him but when you give your opinion don't be brutal.
Learn to listen to him If you go yak yak yak all the time them he will not get an opportunity to open up to you.
Be a patient listener, one who doesn't need to interrupt him with an anecdote or story every time he starts to say something.
Just listen to him.
Probe gently Sometimes you need to probe a little to make a shy guy open up to you.
Begin asking him questions and spend enough time with him so that he begins to feel like he can depend upon you.
Don't be too pushy but keep enquiring about what you want to know gently and you will begin to get your answers.