How To Get A Girlfriend By Really Trying
Had enough of bachelordom? Not looking forward to spending another Friday night alone watching Entourage and/or out with the boys singing drunken, off-key renditions of Journey songs? Think your time would be better spent curled up on the couch (or better yet bed) with a beautiful woman? If so, youre not alone. Most sane men would rather be dating and enjoying the company of an attractive woman than living in the state of excruciating limbo better known as singlehood. Being so, youve got lots of competition. But fear not single man! You might be just one of a few billion available dudes, but that doesnt mean you dont have a fair shot at finding a great girlfriend. If you play your cards right, youll score the woman of your dreams. Wondering how to get a girlfriend? Read on
Get Off Your Ass and Get Out There
In case you werent already aware, youre not going to find a great girlfriend sitting at home watching reruns of Rescue Me and/or playing Xbox. The first step in finding a girlfriend is putting yourself out there. Whether you do it online (e.g. Match.com, OkCupid) or out in public (e.g. clubs, bars, any place but Burger King), youve got to hang where the type of woman youre looking for hangs. Love music? Hit up the local rock club and find the girl with AC/DC tattoo. Passionate about hang gliding? Join the local hang gliders club (if there is such a thing) and scope out extreme chicks.
Once youve chosen your venue, virtual or actual, its time to put your best foot forward. This doesnt mean tossing out tired pick-up lines and fronting like youre some sort of Don Juan (youre not quite there yet.) It means being yourself and being confident. No women will be interested in you if you dont first believe in yourself. This is whats known as inner game. Step up to the plate!
When youve finally realized how awesome a dude you are and how good of a shot you actually have at landing a great girlfriend, go in for the approach. If youve got a good joke, let it out. If youve got dance moves on par with Michael Jackson, bust out the Moonwalk already.
Do what works for you and youre sure to earn the attention of a woman who, first and foremost, likes you for you, a key characteristic of any potential girlfriend. Once youve caught her eye, the next step is keeping her interested.
Strike a Balance Between Indifference and Interest
So, youve got her attention without creepily showing up at her job every day or hiring a plane to fly a banner over her house. Good job! Nows the hard part. Once youve gotten a womans attention, youve got to go in for the kill ASAP. You need to build a connection with her before she loses interest. This is tricky. Youve got to show her youre attracted without looking like shes on your mind 24/7. Play it cool, but show her youre actually interested in her life. If she goes on about her amateur baton twirling career for half an hour, suck it up and smile. Skirt the fine line between indifference and interest.
Take a cue from historys great writers: show, dont tell. Dont come out and say Hey, umm, are we like girlfriend and boyfriend? Show her you want it by flirting and touching, by taking her out to places she likes, by surprising her with roses, etc. Just do it all without being pushy or coming off like youve never dated before (you have though, havent you?)
Be an upstanding guy, but do your best to maintain an air of mystery. If you can somehow find a middle ground between James Bond (uber-cool, international spy) and any old John Cusack role (down-to-earth, lovable), youve got it made. Women dont want mega-macho dudes, but they dont want super cute and fuzzy man-boys either.
Maintain interest every day and shell transform from someone youre merely seeing to a bona fide girlfriend. Actually, it takes a bit more than that
How to Get a Girlfriend from That Girl Youre Seeing
Its been a few weeks/months and you and mystery girl are really hitting it off. The sex is great, the conversations are equally stimulating and youre both having fun. Youre golden, right? Nope. Your work is far from over. Before you can cross the bridge from this guy Im seeing to my dreamy boyfriend, youve got to step up your game. You can start referring to her as my girl a few weeks in, but shes going to need more to consider you her boyfriend. Shes got to see you as someone worth sticking with.
Do you leave her hanging or feeling like an afterthought? You might think waiting 12 hours to reply to her Hey, whats up : ) text is playing it cool, but she can see past your game. Indifference will leave her wanting more, but straight-up lack of respect will get you back to square one (and possibly in worse shape than when you started if she starts lighting up Twitter and Facebook with comments about how much of a tool you are.)
Bedroom prowess will only get you so far; youve got to do her right in a variety of ways. Kick things up a notch. Put off buying all the seasons of Mad Men and take her out to one of the swankiest restaurants in town. Take her to see her favorite singer, even if it means sitting through three hours of Celine Dion. Average guys do average things. Do you just want to be an average guy? No, you want to be a champ and make her forget Ryan Gosling ever existed. Be outstanding and a girlfriend youll have.
So Long, Bachelordom!
Theres no clear cut path to boyfriendhood, as no two girls are the same. The best you can do is 1) be confident 2) find a balance between indifference and interest and 3) go above and beyond whatever Joe Schmos doing.
Tons of guys just like you are wondering how to get a girlfriend at this very moment. Do things the right way and youll be walking hand-in-hand with your new girlfriend while they look on in jealousy. Let someone else sit at home and watch Family Guy reruns all weekend. Your time has come.
Get Off Your Ass and Get Out There
In case you werent already aware, youre not going to find a great girlfriend sitting at home watching reruns of Rescue Me and/or playing Xbox. The first step in finding a girlfriend is putting yourself out there. Whether you do it online (e.g. Match.com, OkCupid) or out in public (e.g. clubs, bars, any place but Burger King), youve got to hang where the type of woman youre looking for hangs. Love music? Hit up the local rock club and find the girl with AC/DC tattoo. Passionate about hang gliding? Join the local hang gliders club (if there is such a thing) and scope out extreme chicks.
Once youve chosen your venue, virtual or actual, its time to put your best foot forward. This doesnt mean tossing out tired pick-up lines and fronting like youre some sort of Don Juan (youre not quite there yet.) It means being yourself and being confident. No women will be interested in you if you dont first believe in yourself. This is whats known as inner game. Step up to the plate!
When youve finally realized how awesome a dude you are and how good of a shot you actually have at landing a great girlfriend, go in for the approach. If youve got a good joke, let it out. If youve got dance moves on par with Michael Jackson, bust out the Moonwalk already.
Do what works for you and youre sure to earn the attention of a woman who, first and foremost, likes you for you, a key characteristic of any potential girlfriend. Once youve caught her eye, the next step is keeping her interested.
Strike a Balance Between Indifference and Interest
So, youve got her attention without creepily showing up at her job every day or hiring a plane to fly a banner over her house. Good job! Nows the hard part. Once youve gotten a womans attention, youve got to go in for the kill ASAP. You need to build a connection with her before she loses interest. This is tricky. Youve got to show her youre attracted without looking like shes on your mind 24/7. Play it cool, but show her youre actually interested in her life. If she goes on about her amateur baton twirling career for half an hour, suck it up and smile. Skirt the fine line between indifference and interest.
Take a cue from historys great writers: show, dont tell. Dont come out and say Hey, umm, are we like girlfriend and boyfriend? Show her you want it by flirting and touching, by taking her out to places she likes, by surprising her with roses, etc. Just do it all without being pushy or coming off like youve never dated before (you have though, havent you?)
Be an upstanding guy, but do your best to maintain an air of mystery. If you can somehow find a middle ground between James Bond (uber-cool, international spy) and any old John Cusack role (down-to-earth, lovable), youve got it made. Women dont want mega-macho dudes, but they dont want super cute and fuzzy man-boys either.
Maintain interest every day and shell transform from someone youre merely seeing to a bona fide girlfriend. Actually, it takes a bit more than that
How to Get a Girlfriend from That Girl Youre Seeing
Its been a few weeks/months and you and mystery girl are really hitting it off. The sex is great, the conversations are equally stimulating and youre both having fun. Youre golden, right? Nope. Your work is far from over. Before you can cross the bridge from this guy Im seeing to my dreamy boyfriend, youve got to step up your game. You can start referring to her as my girl a few weeks in, but shes going to need more to consider you her boyfriend. Shes got to see you as someone worth sticking with.
Do you leave her hanging or feeling like an afterthought? You might think waiting 12 hours to reply to her Hey, whats up : ) text is playing it cool, but she can see past your game. Indifference will leave her wanting more, but straight-up lack of respect will get you back to square one (and possibly in worse shape than when you started if she starts lighting up Twitter and Facebook with comments about how much of a tool you are.)
Bedroom prowess will only get you so far; youve got to do her right in a variety of ways. Kick things up a notch. Put off buying all the seasons of Mad Men and take her out to one of the swankiest restaurants in town. Take her to see her favorite singer, even if it means sitting through three hours of Celine Dion. Average guys do average things. Do you just want to be an average guy? No, you want to be a champ and make her forget Ryan Gosling ever existed. Be outstanding and a girlfriend youll have.
So Long, Bachelordom!
Theres no clear cut path to boyfriendhood, as no two girls are the same. The best you can do is 1) be confident 2) find a balance between indifference and interest and 3) go above and beyond whatever Joe Schmos doing.
Tons of guys just like you are wondering how to get a girlfriend at this very moment. Do things the right way and youll be walking hand-in-hand with your new girlfriend while they look on in jealousy. Let someone else sit at home and watch Family Guy reruns all weekend. Your time has come.