Very often, it is difficult to communicate with one's children.
Most of the time it seems like the children are not listening to what we are saying.
And usually children also feel like their parents are not listening either.
All successful parents must have good communication skill and good listening.
Your child's views, opinions and feelings are worth the attention and you should always try to take the time out to sit with them and listen to what they have to say.
You must try to keep an open mind and discuss their views with them.
More often than not, parents end up reacting rather than responding.
It is natural to pass judgment on one's own experiences and feelings.
However, when one responds to something someone says, one is being receptive the child's emotions and feelings.
This encourages children to express themselves without hesitation or fear of repercussions.
When we react, our child feels that we are invalidating their opinions and feelings.
On the other hand, when we ask them questions and discuss the issue openly, the child is encouraged to open a dialogue that ends on a positive note.
This will also help you understand your child better and why they feel the way they do.
In addition to this, when you respond, it helps you and your child to come up with solutions that either you could not have come up with without each other.
The child will feel like you are genuinely interested in their problems.
It is very important to give your undivided and full attention to your child.
Stop washing the dishes, turn the television off, or put away the newspaper so that you can devote your entire attention to your child's needs.
Do not forget to make eye contact with your child while talking.
Be inquisitive, be calm and patiently offer your opinions and solutions after your child has finished speaking.
Never discourage the child from feeling angry, frustrated or upset.
Our first instinct will usually be to steer the child away from any negative feelings, but this is not always such a wise move.
Once again, carefully listen to the child, find out the reason behind what your child has told you and then offer your solutions to help solve the issue.
Just like us, even children experience difficult situations and have feelings.
When we actively listen and participate in the discussion, we give our children the message that we care and intend on helping them out.
They feel like they are talking to a friend.
Always remember not to react, but to respond.