Should I Accept My Ex Back?
Going through a love break up is a nasty experience.
It causes most of us pain and despair, regardless how much we know that the relationship ends for the best.
Then we would have days, weeks, or probably months to recover from the grief and to let go all memories and simply accept the fact that our ex partner is no longer part of our life, and that we now should move on and start over.
Time is what we depend on to heal our wound, and it does take a long time for some people to completely deal with the situation.
Now, after all that hard work, when we finally managed to get over them, they come back to us saying how sorry they are and how much they wish the relationship could be restored.
How nice if we can give it another shot.
There we are, at the intersection with our wound recently healed, torn between the bitterness of the break up, the sweet memories from the past and the hopeful future.
There comes the million dollar question, should I accept my ex back? Do you realize the extent of responsibility once you decide if you are going to take them back? You are basically gambling the next portion of your life to again be involved with this one person that has caused you so much pain, with a promise that things will turn out better this time.
Have a quiet time with yourself and think about it very carefully.
Don't let your emotions get in the way as they will only obscure your judgment.
Use your head and logic, as this is the time you need to take the correct decision rather than what you may feel like at the moment.
Think back what went wrong in the relationship, why it led to a break up.
If you could turn back time and you knew this problem by then, would the break up still happen? Is the break up caused by some fundamental issues that is unchangeable, or was it due to your or your ex's fault that given you are willing to work on it, things would be okay? As a basic guidance, you can follow these basic rules: Accept them back if: 1.
You see that the break up was avoidable.
2.
You still have strong feelings for them.
3.
You both are willing to work on it and make necessary changes in yourselves to make it last this time.
Don't accept them back if: 1.
The cause of the break up was fundamental issues that cannot be changed.
2.
You don't really have feelings for them anymore, but you are confused because they say they still love you.
3.
YOU both still blame each other on what happened and expect the other party to change in order to make the relationship work this time.
You may ask for advice from your family of friends, but the final decision is yours and yours alone.
You are the only one who has the final say if you should accept your ex back.
It causes most of us pain and despair, regardless how much we know that the relationship ends for the best.
Then we would have days, weeks, or probably months to recover from the grief and to let go all memories and simply accept the fact that our ex partner is no longer part of our life, and that we now should move on and start over.
Time is what we depend on to heal our wound, and it does take a long time for some people to completely deal with the situation.
Now, after all that hard work, when we finally managed to get over them, they come back to us saying how sorry they are and how much they wish the relationship could be restored.
How nice if we can give it another shot.
There we are, at the intersection with our wound recently healed, torn between the bitterness of the break up, the sweet memories from the past and the hopeful future.
There comes the million dollar question, should I accept my ex back? Do you realize the extent of responsibility once you decide if you are going to take them back? You are basically gambling the next portion of your life to again be involved with this one person that has caused you so much pain, with a promise that things will turn out better this time.
Have a quiet time with yourself and think about it very carefully.
Don't let your emotions get in the way as they will only obscure your judgment.
Use your head and logic, as this is the time you need to take the correct decision rather than what you may feel like at the moment.
Think back what went wrong in the relationship, why it led to a break up.
If you could turn back time and you knew this problem by then, would the break up still happen? Is the break up caused by some fundamental issues that is unchangeable, or was it due to your or your ex's fault that given you are willing to work on it, things would be okay? As a basic guidance, you can follow these basic rules: Accept them back if: 1.
You see that the break up was avoidable.
2.
You still have strong feelings for them.
3.
You both are willing to work on it and make necessary changes in yourselves to make it last this time.
Don't accept them back if: 1.
The cause of the break up was fundamental issues that cannot be changed.
2.
You don't really have feelings for them anymore, but you are confused because they say they still love you.
3.
YOU both still blame each other on what happened and expect the other party to change in order to make the relationship work this time.
You may ask for advice from your family of friends, but the final decision is yours and yours alone.
You are the only one who has the final say if you should accept your ex back.