I have always wondered why people cheat, it is something everyone has or will directly or indirectly deal with in their life.  The simple answer to this age old questions, when asked, most people say because people are mean.  People rarely cheat because they are simply mean, there are always deeper emotions and reasons, hate, desire, love or lack there of, and most important, insecurities. 

            I know first hand about cheating by many views.  Personally, I have never cheated on anyone, because I believe it is wrong and I could never live with myself, doing that to my amazing and beautiful wife.  I have had the change and I can understand that excitement that comes over you, when someone approaches you and gives you that kind of attention.  However, I would never hurt anyone like that; also, I have a very strong conscious.  Nevertheless, I have been cheated on by a girlfriend.  My mother and my step mothers have been cheated on, by my biological father.  My mother also happens to be a social worker for the court system and does custody disputes and divorces, so since I was a child I have heard some gruesome stories about "the other side of the relationship".  Going back to my biological father, John, he has been married and divorced three times, and just so happens to have cheated on all three of them.  I know this for a fact, because I have met some of the women and have heard the stories from my step mothers, friends and just plain old spying. 

            With my parents being divorced, I lived with my mother and my two sisters primarily.  My sisters and I would travel to John's every other weekend and every Wednesday for dinner.  So I have never really had a strong male in my life, while my mother does have an amazing long time boyfriend of twenty-three years, Steve, lives at his own house and I never say see him for long periods at a time. 

            I remember throughout my life hearing about my sisters and their relationships that ended or had cheating involved.  I would also think, "How could anyone do that", to see the emotions my sisters and other woman in my life.  I began to look for that reason, what really drives people to cheat, is it chemical is it physical, is it a personal reason.  I have discovered that it's all of theses and sometimes a lot more. 

            People are simple creatures; they crave love and acceptance, simple as that.  If one of these are taken away then people will look else were for love and acceptance.  Cheating is not about just intimacy, even thought that is a huge emotional part, but cheating is also that connection that you have lost or may be losing, which drives you to cheat.  When someone cheat, they usually are missing connection and don't feel love anymore.  Of course there is always an acceptation; people who are not emotional developed will cheat for different reasons.  Teenagers, and other young people who do not understand, will cheat for looks, or simply they are bored, or want more sex.