How To Get Laid - It"s All About Rapport
There's a simple technique for qualifying called Bait, Hook, Reel, Release.
It was developed by Mystery and it really works.
But I add one more R to it - Rapport.
I think that without this, you're only an okay pick up artist.
With rapport, you're a real player.
Rapport questions explore the topic at a deeper level.
Really bad qualification goes something like this - 'Are you adventurous? Are you spontaneous? Can you cook?' It's just a guy throwing so many questions at a girl her head's starting to spin.
And I know a very famous pick up artist who does exactly this.
It stinks because there's no rapport.
You're never showing any genuine interest in her.
Think about this - she gets hit on by so many guys.
She has to be able to filter the fakers from the real thing.
Which category are you going to fall into if you're obviously just asking questions so that you can follow them up with a compliment? I noticed when I was learning to meet girls that I would often stop and ask rapport questions because I was really interested in them.
Lots of guys don't actually look for things they think are genuinely cool about a girl.
I've always found the female perspective on things interesting.
I guess I've always liked women.
What you should ask yourself is - what's cool about this girl? What do I like about her? Where can she fit in to my life? Spend some time thinking about what you want or don't want in a girl.
Use this when you're out meeting women to filter and screen.
What you'll find also is that you take a real interest and look for real connections, and this works much better than just throwing a bunch of questions and fake compliments at them.
For example, I might say, 'What's the most adventurous thing you've done in the last month?' This is different than just asking if she's adventurous.
If she's got her BS detector on, she'll think, 'Oh, he's asking if I'm adventurous meaning am I slutty.
' When you ask a deeper question, you show that you really want to know about what she actually does in her daily life.
When you want to know how to get laid, think of it as a cycle, not just a straight shot from here to there.
You have to keep qualification going, even after you sleep together, and it's important to do it with the aim of establishing rapport.
It was developed by Mystery and it really works.
But I add one more R to it - Rapport.
I think that without this, you're only an okay pick up artist.
With rapport, you're a real player.
Rapport questions explore the topic at a deeper level.
Really bad qualification goes something like this - 'Are you adventurous? Are you spontaneous? Can you cook?' It's just a guy throwing so many questions at a girl her head's starting to spin.
And I know a very famous pick up artist who does exactly this.
It stinks because there's no rapport.
You're never showing any genuine interest in her.
Think about this - she gets hit on by so many guys.
She has to be able to filter the fakers from the real thing.
Which category are you going to fall into if you're obviously just asking questions so that you can follow them up with a compliment? I noticed when I was learning to meet girls that I would often stop and ask rapport questions because I was really interested in them.
Lots of guys don't actually look for things they think are genuinely cool about a girl.
I've always found the female perspective on things interesting.
I guess I've always liked women.
What you should ask yourself is - what's cool about this girl? What do I like about her? Where can she fit in to my life? Spend some time thinking about what you want or don't want in a girl.
Use this when you're out meeting women to filter and screen.
What you'll find also is that you take a real interest and look for real connections, and this works much better than just throwing a bunch of questions and fake compliments at them.
For example, I might say, 'What's the most adventurous thing you've done in the last month?' This is different than just asking if she's adventurous.
If she's got her BS detector on, she'll think, 'Oh, he's asking if I'm adventurous meaning am I slutty.
' When you ask a deeper question, you show that you really want to know about what she actually does in her daily life.
When you want to know how to get laid, think of it as a cycle, not just a straight shot from here to there.
You have to keep qualification going, even after you sleep together, and it's important to do it with the aim of establishing rapport.