How To Break Up A Dissatisfying Relationship
Breaking up with someone you once loved or still love is never an easy thing for any person to do, even for people who are considered heartless. It sure takes a whole lot of guts to end a relationship, because some people have a habit of staying in a relationship out of pity - who in the world want to be loved out of pity?! Yes a lot of people find it difficult to summon courage in order back out of a relationship that is most definitely heading straight for the rocks.
Here are a few tips to help you break up with someone
1) Be Very Certain About Your Decision
Breaking up with a person you still obviously love or care a lot about is truly a hard decision to make, so you must be completely certain that you want to put an end to the relationship. You can start by drawing up a list of all the reasons why you really need to break up with your partner, then make sure you carefully go through the list you have made and also mentally recall of all the things you had done and said in order to correct the issues you had with your partner, but all ended in negative results. A good example, you should not consider continuing a relationship with a substance abuser or a person with violent behaviour even though you really do love them to death!
2) For Pete's Sake, Don't Do It Over The Telephone!
Never ever consider breaking up with a person over the telephone, e-mail, text messages or via a Dear John/Jane letter. Doing this is not only tacky; it is a COWARDLY act, period!!!
If you must break up with your partner, make sure that you do it in person - it is bad form to do it any other way.
You do owe your partner some sort of an explanation (hey don't ask me, it is the rules!), try to be fair to him or her - doing this will help them cope with the break up. Please understand that it is quite hard to get over any relationship without getting closure.
3) Be Well Prepared
After you have made up your mind to break up with someone, always be well prepared. Ensure you anticipate all the question(s) that the person you are breaking up with is going to ask you and also be ready to answer them. Please know that it might come as a huge shock to your partner and he or she may end up reacting in a certain way (this often depends on his or her personality), they might beg, cry or may even resort to violence. Just make sure that you remain very calm, try your best not to let it end in a fight.
4) Be Clear That The Relationship Is Over!
Be sure that you make your partner understand that the relationship is over, the sooner he or she knows that there is absolutely no hope of reconciliation, the sooner the whole healing process starts.
5) Help Your Ex Heal
After breaking up with your partner, it is your duty to help him or her heal, you can do this by avoiding them (for some time), this will give them ample time to get over you. Try your best not to call, text or send e-mails to them. It may actually sound like you don't give a hoot about them, but if you insist on calling, texting or sending e-mails to them, they may never heal.
Here are a few tips to help you break up with someone
1) Be Very Certain About Your Decision
Breaking up with a person you still obviously love or care a lot about is truly a hard decision to make, so you must be completely certain that you want to put an end to the relationship. You can start by drawing up a list of all the reasons why you really need to break up with your partner, then make sure you carefully go through the list you have made and also mentally recall of all the things you had done and said in order to correct the issues you had with your partner, but all ended in negative results. A good example, you should not consider continuing a relationship with a substance abuser or a person with violent behaviour even though you really do love them to death!
2) For Pete's Sake, Don't Do It Over The Telephone!
Never ever consider breaking up with a person over the telephone, e-mail, text messages or via a Dear John/Jane letter. Doing this is not only tacky; it is a COWARDLY act, period!!!
If you must break up with your partner, make sure that you do it in person - it is bad form to do it any other way.
You do owe your partner some sort of an explanation (hey don't ask me, it is the rules!), try to be fair to him or her - doing this will help them cope with the break up. Please understand that it is quite hard to get over any relationship without getting closure.
3) Be Well Prepared
After you have made up your mind to break up with someone, always be well prepared. Ensure you anticipate all the question(s) that the person you are breaking up with is going to ask you and also be ready to answer them. Please know that it might come as a huge shock to your partner and he or she may end up reacting in a certain way (this often depends on his or her personality), they might beg, cry or may even resort to violence. Just make sure that you remain very calm, try your best not to let it end in a fight.
4) Be Clear That The Relationship Is Over!
Be sure that you make your partner understand that the relationship is over, the sooner he or she knows that there is absolutely no hope of reconciliation, the sooner the whole healing process starts.
5) Help Your Ex Heal
After breaking up with your partner, it is your duty to help him or her heal, you can do this by avoiding them (for some time), this will give them ample time to get over you. Try your best not to call, text or send e-mails to them. It may actually sound like you don't give a hoot about them, but if you insist on calling, texting or sending e-mails to them, they may never heal.