How to Catch a Cheating Spouse
- 1). Jot down the spouse's activities in a journal. Keep track of the dates and times, reported destinations and other parties said to be present or involved. Mention outings casually in front of parties who were said to be involved.
- 2). Check the journal entries against credit card statements, bank records and ATM withdrawals. Look for credit card transactions at restaurants where the spouse reportedly ate. Make a note of expenditures at places other than the reported locations.
- 3). Review cell phone records, which list all incoming and outgoing calls and their duration. Look for repeated calls to and from unfamiliar numbers. Use an online reverse number look-up service to determine to whom the number belongs.
- 4). Check the incoming and outgoing text messaging on the cell phone regularly. Examine the cell phone contacts to see the name label on the phone number to which the texts are sent. Use "caller ID spoofing" to call suspicious numbers (see Resources).
- 5). Observe activities at office gatherings or work functions. Notice when the spouse avoids a specific co-worker but keeps track of the individual's movements and exchanges frequent looks.
- 6). Come home early from work. Announce plans to work late and then arrive home early. Drop in at the office and surprise the spouse with a lunch invitation. Observe the reaction or make notes as to the spouse's absence from the office.
- 7). Install monitoring software on the home computer that allows the recording of online chat, web surfing, logon info and passwords. Look for memberships to online dating services.