Surviving A Breakup
Surviving a breakup requires time, great patience and common sense.
Someone said that to me when I was 16 yrs old and I darn near slammed my 20 rear old cousin through the wall, she was right of course, but I still thought I was going to go crazy.
That was a few moons ago but the memory is still fresh, I loved here or though I thought, I didn't think I could live without her, even at 16 years old the pain of that breakup was as real as if it happened today.
No matter if you are 16, 26, or 46 surviving a breakup is emotionally painful.
Now back then I don't know how I survived those three weeks until the next girl came along :) Reality is most breakups end up like that; you eventually look back and remember a tough time, but not the end of the world as it appeared at the time.
None of this matters now though, that pain of emptiness, loneliness, rejection and sense of not being is heavy and makes life a million times harder to live.
To stop this behavior and to began to heal stay clear of your ex! You may even know this if you have tried phoning or texting them and they won't talk to you.
Maybe you saw them in person and they rejected you? In any case it is quite normal for your ex not to want to see or talk to you, and if you were not in such a state you would realize this yourself.
So leave them to be, time allows you and your ex to sort out your thoughts and emotions, time will allow you to decipher what has happened and will allow your initial reaction to go by the wayside and your intelligence to come into focus So; no begging your ex for another chance, no texting him/her 100 times a day, get your thoughts together.
Patience is needed during a breakup and many times is the least of what you may have.
You must exhort patience to keep your emotions in tact.
If you see your ex out and about don't ignore them, speak to them and keep it light, if they are with another bite your lip and stay positive, you can do it if you try.
More important than needing patience for your ex's actions is allowing patience for yourself.
You must force yourself into doing things on your own without your ex.
Go out with friends and family, finish a project, do that activity your ex had no interest in, or you did not have the time before to do.
Have patience with yourself and don't stop forcing yourself to go out and be active, maybe bowling seemed unappealing in the past but given time might become a blast, stay in the moment.
Common sense is a key requirement in surviving a breakup.
Remember you survived without your ex before you met.
You had great qualities such as look and wit, I mean you had that something special that attracted your ex, well you still have it.
You're the person you have always been, the one who has great qualities and who possesses a love for your self and life.
Your common sense will allow you through time and patience to understand what went wrong, your faults, strengths and the same with you will be able to look at your ex's faults and strengths.
Combine time, patience and common sense and you will be able to make head and tails of your breakup.
It will take time, it will hurt, but it will get better.
Will it only take three weeks as it did for me when I was 16?..
I doubt it, I was a kid, I believe I loved her, she dumped me for a jock and I doubt now if a sweet looking lady rolled up in a 72 chevelle I could just forget my girl as I did back then.
Use time, patience and common sense while surviving a breakup will give you the strength and knowledge to look at your relationship for what it really was.
You will be able to finalize the act of moving on or trying to regain what has been broken.
For more information on surviving a breakup, deciding if over is really over or if getting back what you had and making it better than it ever was, read below for tips and tricks that are tantalizing and unconventional.
Someone said that to me when I was 16 yrs old and I darn near slammed my 20 rear old cousin through the wall, she was right of course, but I still thought I was going to go crazy.
That was a few moons ago but the memory is still fresh, I loved here or though I thought, I didn't think I could live without her, even at 16 years old the pain of that breakup was as real as if it happened today.
No matter if you are 16, 26, or 46 surviving a breakup is emotionally painful.
Now back then I don't know how I survived those three weeks until the next girl came along :) Reality is most breakups end up like that; you eventually look back and remember a tough time, but not the end of the world as it appeared at the time.
None of this matters now though, that pain of emptiness, loneliness, rejection and sense of not being is heavy and makes life a million times harder to live.
To stop this behavior and to began to heal stay clear of your ex! You may even know this if you have tried phoning or texting them and they won't talk to you.
Maybe you saw them in person and they rejected you? In any case it is quite normal for your ex not to want to see or talk to you, and if you were not in such a state you would realize this yourself.
So leave them to be, time allows you and your ex to sort out your thoughts and emotions, time will allow you to decipher what has happened and will allow your initial reaction to go by the wayside and your intelligence to come into focus So; no begging your ex for another chance, no texting him/her 100 times a day, get your thoughts together.
Patience is needed during a breakup and many times is the least of what you may have.
You must exhort patience to keep your emotions in tact.
If you see your ex out and about don't ignore them, speak to them and keep it light, if they are with another bite your lip and stay positive, you can do it if you try.
More important than needing patience for your ex's actions is allowing patience for yourself.
You must force yourself into doing things on your own without your ex.
Go out with friends and family, finish a project, do that activity your ex had no interest in, or you did not have the time before to do.
Have patience with yourself and don't stop forcing yourself to go out and be active, maybe bowling seemed unappealing in the past but given time might become a blast, stay in the moment.
Common sense is a key requirement in surviving a breakup.
Remember you survived without your ex before you met.
You had great qualities such as look and wit, I mean you had that something special that attracted your ex, well you still have it.
You're the person you have always been, the one who has great qualities and who possesses a love for your self and life.
Your common sense will allow you through time and patience to understand what went wrong, your faults, strengths and the same with you will be able to look at your ex's faults and strengths.
Combine time, patience and common sense and you will be able to make head and tails of your breakup.
It will take time, it will hurt, but it will get better.
Will it only take three weeks as it did for me when I was 16?..
I doubt it, I was a kid, I believe I loved her, she dumped me for a jock and I doubt now if a sweet looking lady rolled up in a 72 chevelle I could just forget my girl as I did back then.
Use time, patience and common sense while surviving a breakup will give you the strength and knowledge to look at your relationship for what it really was.
You will be able to finalize the act of moving on or trying to regain what has been broken.
For more information on surviving a breakup, deciding if over is really over or if getting back what you had and making it better than it ever was, read below for tips and tricks that are tantalizing and unconventional.