We attract what we are ready for.
What that really means is that the more time and effort we put into being the kind of person we want to be the healthier our relationships become.
When I coach people to take action and expand their sense of themselves they begin to attract new people into their lives and their current relationships become more rewarding.
Recently I coached a woman who had had a number of disappointing relationships and much conflict with her co-workers.
She worked hard at strengthening her sense of self by taking positive action steps.
As her confidence increased she began to expect more from the people around her.
No longer would she put up with emotional abuse and manipulation.
By learning better relationship skills she indeed began attracting positive people into her life and was able to resolve conflicts with co-workers.
In time she began meeting people who appreciated her and she she let go of people who were trying to pull her back.
She found that she had strengths that she had not even known she had.
This is what happens when one seriously starts working on upgrading oneself.
Your sense of who you are changes.
You form an invisible boundary around yourself to which you are the gatekeeper.
It puts you in charge of whom you let in and who stays out.
The result is that your self confidence grows and you feel in charge of your own life.
By working on self-mastery you indeed attract what you are ready for.
We form relationships based on emotional compatibility.
It follows that as we increase our emotional fitness we will attract someone who is emotionally in a similar place.