Why Men Cheat on Wives- 3 Things to Avoid to Keep Your Man
Affairs have existed as long as marriages and relationships. Infidelity is nothing new, but why do men cheat on wives? Why would you pledge your life to someone and then turn your back on the relationship you have built?
To understand why men cheat on wives you must understand how men are psycologically. Men have emotions though they don't show them as much as women. These emotions remain bottled up being viewed by most males as a sign of weakness. Woman attempting to make no effort to help him communicate these emotions are setting themselves up for a possible infidelity.
If your husband has a best friend that cheats on his wife you should be alert. He will tell you he would never do such a thing, but the power of close male influences is strong.
After watching a buddy cheat on his wife for extended periods of time your husband is likely to rationalize cheating as not a big deal. His friend has been getting away with it forever. Not only getting away with it but bragging to your husband about how great he is with ladies.
If your husbands friends are cheaters it doesn't guarantee that he is. However the power of suggestion is very effective at making men cheat. You don't have to forbid him from seeing his friends, but talk to him about your concerns. The two of you could come up with a system of safer places to go with his friend than bars and other popular hook up spots.
Unhealthy Sex Life
Most people think this refers to having sex more often. That is part of it if the two of you are not intimate often enough, but thats usually not the real issue. The problem is mundane, predictable sex.
You don't need to dress up in costumes or watch dirty movies but let him know hes "the man." Men are very vulnerable as far as their ego is concerned. Chances are they won't mention it to you out of embarrassment, but this does create a problem.
Sex is not very fullfilling to males if they feel that you are "faking it". If you have to fake it perhaps discussing some things that excite you in the bedroom would help.
For how long people can stay together they often never talk about real sexual desires out of a fear of rejection or that it might sound weird. You should be able to trust and respect each other enough to be honest and mature about what you like and dislike. You may be pleasently surprised by what he likes, but was too afraid to mention.
Feels Emotionally Disconnected
In the beginning of the relationship you probably went out of your way to say nice things to each other and compliment good qualities. Over time we stop saying these things because they have already been said. We feel like our spouse knows how we feel and therefore it does not need to be mentioned. This is dangerous thinking in a relationship.
As relationships progress we are not as thoughful as we would have been when we were first dating. His stories, jokes and thoughts that you once found so intriguing and interesting become everyday banter. This is only natural once the newness wears off.
Unfortunately with men the fact that you are uninterested translates to your husband that you are not interested in him. This doesn't mean that it is true, but men are far more insecure than women give them credit for. A man who feels disregarded feels emotionally disconnected.
Understanding the male ego could save most failing relationships. It is very fragile and needs to be stroked from time to time, especially by his love.
To regain this emotional connection go out of your way to find out about him. Men are less vocal than women about serious matters, unless they are asked. If you never ask what he thinks about certain things you may never know them. The male brain is not programmed to share intimate information openly.
The best remedy for this is to take an interest in your husband. Do not take him for granted. Ask him what he thinks about pressing issues. Try to get his input on purchases and decisions you may not have discussed because you thought he was not interested. Little steps toward showing you care can go a long way.
Usually men cheat on wives for internal reasons as opposed to purely sexual encounters. What men find most attractive in a woman is her interest in him. Most cheating husbands felt that thier mistress treated them the way that their spouse used to, like an attractive desirable man. This is most often why men cheat on wives.
To understand why men cheat on wives you must understand how men are psycologically. Men have emotions though they don't show them as much as women. These emotions remain bottled up being viewed by most males as a sign of weakness. Woman attempting to make no effort to help him communicate these emotions are setting themselves up for a possible infidelity.
Here are the 3 most common reason that men cheat on their wives:
Cheating Friends
If your husband has a best friend that cheats on his wife you should be alert. He will tell you he would never do such a thing, but the power of close male influences is strong.
After watching a buddy cheat on his wife for extended periods of time your husband is likely to rationalize cheating as not a big deal. His friend has been getting away with it forever. Not only getting away with it but bragging to your husband about how great he is with ladies.
If your husbands friends are cheaters it doesn't guarantee that he is. However the power of suggestion is very effective at making men cheat. You don't have to forbid him from seeing his friends, but talk to him about your concerns. The two of you could come up with a system of safer places to go with his friend than bars and other popular hook up spots.
Unhealthy Sex Life
Most people think this refers to having sex more often. That is part of it if the two of you are not intimate often enough, but thats usually not the real issue. The problem is mundane, predictable sex.
You don't need to dress up in costumes or watch dirty movies but let him know hes "the man." Men are very vulnerable as far as their ego is concerned. Chances are they won't mention it to you out of embarrassment, but this does create a problem.
Sex is not very fullfilling to males if they feel that you are "faking it". If you have to fake it perhaps discussing some things that excite you in the bedroom would help.
For how long people can stay together they often never talk about real sexual desires out of a fear of rejection or that it might sound weird. You should be able to trust and respect each other enough to be honest and mature about what you like and dislike. You may be pleasently surprised by what he likes, but was too afraid to mention.
Feels Emotionally Disconnected
In the beginning of the relationship you probably went out of your way to say nice things to each other and compliment good qualities. Over time we stop saying these things because they have already been said. We feel like our spouse knows how we feel and therefore it does not need to be mentioned. This is dangerous thinking in a relationship.
As relationships progress we are not as thoughful as we would have been when we were first dating. His stories, jokes and thoughts that you once found so intriguing and interesting become everyday banter. This is only natural once the newness wears off.
Unfortunately with men the fact that you are uninterested translates to your husband that you are not interested in him. This doesn't mean that it is true, but men are far more insecure than women give them credit for. A man who feels disregarded feels emotionally disconnected.
Understanding the male ego could save most failing relationships. It is very fragile and needs to be stroked from time to time, especially by his love.
To regain this emotional connection go out of your way to find out about him. Men are less vocal than women about serious matters, unless they are asked. If you never ask what he thinks about certain things you may never know them. The male brain is not programmed to share intimate information openly.
The best remedy for this is to take an interest in your husband. Do not take him for granted. Ask him what he thinks about pressing issues. Try to get his input on purchases and decisions you may not have discussed because you thought he was not interested. Little steps toward showing you care can go a long way.
Usually men cheat on wives for internal reasons as opposed to purely sexual encounters. What men find most attractive in a woman is her interest in him. Most cheating husbands felt that thier mistress treated them the way that their spouse used to, like an attractive desirable man. This is most often why men cheat on wives.