Believe it or not, arguments have their place in every relationship no matter how compatible you and your partner are.
Everything can seem perfect for awhile, but rest assured, sooner or later confrontation will arise between the two of you.
Arguments don't have to be detrimental to the health of your relationship, however.
In fact, conflict can even bring the two of you closer together when resolved properly.
The tricky part, of course, is getting to a resolution when an argument arises as quickly and painlessly as possible for the both of you.
It is tricky because your natural response to an angry remark from your partner is almost always going to one of a defensive nature.
If, for example, your partner confronted you about leaving some dirty dishes in the sink, then you'd probably snap back with a defensive remark like "I couldn't help that I got called in to work early.
" This instinctive, defensive reaction is completely natural and almost automatic.
You can think of it in much the same way as your reaction to some form of physical danger.
If someone were to throw something at you, you'd put your hands up to protect yourself.
When you defend yourself in an argument, you are protecting yourself in the same basic manner.
In the case of an argument, however, snapping back at your partner will only escalate the conflict.
You defend yourself and your position in the argument, and your partner will then be compelled to do the same.
Back and forth you both will go in the vain effort to get each other to agree on who's position is the "right" one.
What started out as a simple disagreement can quickly escalate and result in unnecessary hurt feelings and resentment.
So, what can you do to resolve an argument with your partner quickly and easily? Well, it will take some effort on your part.
You will have to take it upon yourself to be the "bigger" person.
When your partner becomes angry and confronts you about something, you'll need to fight your instinctive urge to immediately defend yourself.
Hold your tongue for a second, and try to think clearly before you respond.
Choose a non-defensive response.
For example, your response from the example earlier could be changed to "yeah, those dishes are really piling up.
I was just thinking the same thing.
" By doing this, you diffuse the situation and let your partner know that you understand their position instead of defending your own.
It may not be easy for you to do at first since you are giving up your chance to express your own point of view this way.
However, the important thing is that the conflict is over before it even started, and the two of you can be happy.