Even when you're spending all the money, making all the decisions, carting around all the stuff you seem to need to cart when you're planning a wedding, you're going to want someone to call.
I've never spent so much time on the phone as when I was getting ready to get married.
There are so many little things to do as you plan for your wedding.
Sometimes you just want someone to listen as you catalogue your triumphs and accomplishments.
Sometimes you want someone to commiserate.
And okay, we understand: planning a wedding is not going to win you a Nobel Peace Prize.
Much of this is really only important to you.
And when I say important, I mean important in the sense that you have a list and you're checking things off.
But it matters to you for your wedding and you're entitled to moral support as you navigate this important occasion! Having someone to check in with is important for two reasons.

1. It's a big party...
   and you have a lot of responsibilities that come with a lot of stress.
   So it's nice to have someone listen to your triumphs and woes, applaud when appropriate: wow, what a good deal you got on paper napkins, and commiserate when necessary: that other bride wouldn't give up the paper wedding bells to you even when you explained to her how much more important your wedding was than hers? The nerve!
2. This party is really about creating the launching pad for your marriage.
   You're working on your wedding ceremony and your wedding vows at the same time you're planning the party.
   It's wonderful to have someone who wants to celebrate that with you.
   

It's not always true, but often your siblings make good listeners.

• They know you so well, so they'll have suggestions about how you might do things to make life easier for yourself and better for the party.
  
• They're not afraid of you.
  Your friends don't always know how to say, Hello...
  are you thinking? There's no romance for siblings.
  They love you.
  They're willing to call you on your stuff without your ever thinking they're not your friends.
  They may be friends, but they're your siblings.
  They've been calling you on your stuff your whole life.
  Sometimes during this process, it can be good to be called back to reality! Just occasionally you wander off the boundaries of good sense as the wedding machine sucks you in.
  
• They love you and are so excited you're getting married and going to be happy.
  They're practiced at wanting the best for you.
  

If you're lucky they'll offer to help.
Many of your siblings are great project workers as well.
And they know how you like things done, because often, having grown up in the same household, that's how they like things done.
They'll have different strengths to offer you but all of them matter.
They're often excited to help you have a great wedding but mostly, they want you to live happily ever after with your beloved.
Every marriage needs that kind of help.