Tips and Ideas that Help People Overcome Shyness
Many individuals deal with shyness and social anxiety on a daily basis. Shy people know that they are missing out on a more fulfilling life. Shyness usually leads to lost opportunities, fewer social connections and less pleasurable experiences. Shyness can be very crippling but there are ways that can help in removing it.
Many people are affected by shyness in they're teenaged years. For example, a guy might feel shy when an attractive girl is attempting to engage him in conversation. The individual focuses on himself instead of focusing on the girl. He thinks more about what he is going to say instead of thinking about what the girl is trying to say. The boy's pulse begins to race more, his mouth begins to dry up and he starts feeling like an idiot. He can barely think of anything to say and he mumbles when he speaks. After a few moments pass, the individual might see contempt or boredom in the girl's eyes and mumbles an excuse to get out of the situation.
The shyness formula is usually "too much focus on the self" plus social anxiety. Also, shy people might feel unpleasant physical sensations during social experiences. These sensations might make you feel much less like your calm and logical self.
You need to learn to relax socially in order to overcome shyness. If you learn to relax socially it will alow you to direct your focus away from yourself and it enables you to practice certain conversational skills. Instead of responding to social events with fear, you will respond to social events with excitement and pleasure. Also, learning to relax while in a social situation can be beneficial to your productivity. Practice the following tips and ideas and implement them in your life to help in reducing your own shyness.
1) Think about the way you feel and behave around people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. Transfer this feeling when you meet new people and experience new situations.
2) When your in a social situation focus your attention away from yourself. You can think a about how your coming across a little bit, but, you might as well be by yourself if all of your focus is on your words and feelings. Make a point to remember names, notice what people are wearing, listen to the conversation and take mental notes. If you do this you will feel calmer and you will have more to talk about in the conversation.
3) Ask open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a 'yes'/'no' answer such as 'What is your favorite movie?' rather than: 'Do you like this movie?'. Ask a follow up question such as 'What is the plot of that movie?' once they've answered your question. Asking open questions and follow up questions is a great way to get the conversation going. If the person your talking with doesn't seem interested the conversation don't worry about it.
4) Stop imagining or worrying of what others might think of you! Most of the time what a person thinks about you is mostly involved with who they are than who you are.
5) Take your time. You don't have to blurt things out all of the time. Take time to answer questions and consider a good response instead of blurting out what you think might be the correct response. If your relaxed you respond more slowly.
6) Create a character in your mind. Act out the role of an extroverted character of your creation.This trick is useful when you are at a uncomfortable social gathering. In the long run it will not break your shyness but it will relieve your shyness during the social experience.
7) Use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is a great and very quick way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any social situation. Hypnosis is very beneficial in relaxing your mind and body which enables you to only think about meeting others in social situations. It conditions you to associate social experiences with relaxation. You will become a calmer, confident and more relaxed version of yourself with continued use of hypnosis.
Overtime, if you implement these tips and ideas into your life you will love meeting new people and your inner self-confidence will increase dramatically
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Many people are affected by shyness in they're teenaged years. For example, a guy might feel shy when an attractive girl is attempting to engage him in conversation. The individual focuses on himself instead of focusing on the girl. He thinks more about what he is going to say instead of thinking about what the girl is trying to say. The boy's pulse begins to race more, his mouth begins to dry up and he starts feeling like an idiot. He can barely think of anything to say and he mumbles when he speaks. After a few moments pass, the individual might see contempt or boredom in the girl's eyes and mumbles an excuse to get out of the situation.
The shyness formula is usually "too much focus on the self" plus social anxiety. Also, shy people might feel unpleasant physical sensations during social experiences. These sensations might make you feel much less like your calm and logical self.
You need to learn to relax socially in order to overcome shyness. If you learn to relax socially it will alow you to direct your focus away from yourself and it enables you to practice certain conversational skills. Instead of responding to social events with fear, you will respond to social events with excitement and pleasure. Also, learning to relax while in a social situation can be beneficial to your productivity. Practice the following tips and ideas and implement them in your life to help in reducing your own shyness.
1) Think about the way you feel and behave around people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. Transfer this feeling when you meet new people and experience new situations.
2) When your in a social situation focus your attention away from yourself. You can think a about how your coming across a little bit, but, you might as well be by yourself if all of your focus is on your words and feelings. Make a point to remember names, notice what people are wearing, listen to the conversation and take mental notes. If you do this you will feel calmer and you will have more to talk about in the conversation.
3) Ask open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a 'yes'/'no' answer such as 'What is your favorite movie?' rather than: 'Do you like this movie?'. Ask a follow up question such as 'What is the plot of that movie?' once they've answered your question. Asking open questions and follow up questions is a great way to get the conversation going. If the person your talking with doesn't seem interested the conversation don't worry about it.
4) Stop imagining or worrying of what others might think of you! Most of the time what a person thinks about you is mostly involved with who they are than who you are.
5) Take your time. You don't have to blurt things out all of the time. Take time to answer questions and consider a good response instead of blurting out what you think might be the correct response. If your relaxed you respond more slowly.
6) Create a character in your mind. Act out the role of an extroverted character of your creation.This trick is useful when you are at a uncomfortable social gathering. In the long run it will not break your shyness but it will relieve your shyness during the social experience.
7) Use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is a great and very quick way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any social situation. Hypnosis is very beneficial in relaxing your mind and body which enables you to only think about meeting others in social situations. It conditions you to associate social experiences with relaxation. You will become a calmer, confident and more relaxed version of yourself with continued use of hypnosis.
Overtime, if you implement these tips and ideas into your life you will love meeting new people and your inner self-confidence will increase dramatically
Overcome shyness now at HypnosisDownloads.com