Can You Have Intercourse Too Often When Trying To Conceive A Boy Or Girl?
I sometimes hear from people who wonder how often you should be having sex when you are trying to conceive and chose your baby's gender.
Many worry about having sex too little or too much.
Some things you read will tell you that you should have sex as often as possible during your ovulation period.
And others will tell you to limit intercourse before or during ovulation to make sure that sperm counts are as high as possible.
I heard from someone who said: "my husband and I are trying to have a boy baby.
I've read that we should limit sex until the day that we try to conceive and then have sex as much as we can on the conception day.
Is this correct? Is it possible to have too much or too little sex when trying to conceive?" I will try to address these concerns in the following article.
Timing Your Intercourse Correctly Is More Important Than The Amount Of Intercourse When You Are Trying To Choose Your Baby's Gender: When you are trying to choose your baby's gender and are dead set on either getting a boy or a girl baby, it's very important that you have sex at the right time or on the right day.
When the "right day" occurs is partly influenced by when you ovulate.
When you want a boy baby, it's best to conceive after ovulation.
Not only that, but you want to conceive when you have an alkaline vaginal PH.
In fact, if you try to conceive before ovulation, then you increase your chances of getting a girl.
So it's better to limit yourself to conceiving when the time is right instead of just having sex as much as possible during a non specified period of time.
It makes no sense to be so careful and precise to pinpoint the best day to conceive a boy, but to get so excited about the process or worry that you won't have enough opportunities to conceive that you begin to have sex before the optimal day.
It may make you feel more thorough to do this, but ultimately you might be undermining all of your hard work because conceiving before ovulation decreases the numbers of Y or boy producing sperm and would therefore make a girl more likely.
It's so important that you understand this.
With that said, there's nothing inherently wrong with having sex frequently during your conception window.
For example, in the scenario above, the woman writing wanted to conceive a boy.
Let's say she was using an ovulation predictor and determined that on a Monday morning, ovulation had occurred.
Once she got this positive signal, there was nothing wrong with having sex multiple times that day or into the next.
This is fine as long as ovulation has occurred.
And although the first attempt at conception was probably going to give her the highest chance of success, her subsequent attempts wouldn't hurt her chances since ovulation has already happened.
But now let's flip the scenario and assume that we're talking about a couple that wants a girl.
Now let's say that on that same Monday they learned from a saliva predictor that ovulation was a couple of days away.
This is a good time to have intercourse for a girl baby.
And while it's OK to continue to have intercourse until ovulation happens, once testing shows you that you have ovulated, it's my opinion that you should stop having sex at that time.
Because continuing to try to conceive past ovulation is going to increase your chances of getting a boy baby.
And since you have no way of knowing which conception attempt actually results in a pregnancy, then in my opinion, it's just not worth the risk.
So to answer the question posed, the frequency of sex isn't nearly as important as the timing of sex.
And if you're having so much intercourse that you go before or after your optimal day (depending on which gender you want,) then that could hurt your chances of getting the gender that you want.
Many worry about having sex too little or too much.
Some things you read will tell you that you should have sex as often as possible during your ovulation period.
And others will tell you to limit intercourse before or during ovulation to make sure that sperm counts are as high as possible.
I heard from someone who said: "my husband and I are trying to have a boy baby.
I've read that we should limit sex until the day that we try to conceive and then have sex as much as we can on the conception day.
Is this correct? Is it possible to have too much or too little sex when trying to conceive?" I will try to address these concerns in the following article.
Timing Your Intercourse Correctly Is More Important Than The Amount Of Intercourse When You Are Trying To Choose Your Baby's Gender: When you are trying to choose your baby's gender and are dead set on either getting a boy or a girl baby, it's very important that you have sex at the right time or on the right day.
When the "right day" occurs is partly influenced by when you ovulate.
When you want a boy baby, it's best to conceive after ovulation.
Not only that, but you want to conceive when you have an alkaline vaginal PH.
In fact, if you try to conceive before ovulation, then you increase your chances of getting a girl.
So it's better to limit yourself to conceiving when the time is right instead of just having sex as much as possible during a non specified period of time.
It makes no sense to be so careful and precise to pinpoint the best day to conceive a boy, but to get so excited about the process or worry that you won't have enough opportunities to conceive that you begin to have sex before the optimal day.
It may make you feel more thorough to do this, but ultimately you might be undermining all of your hard work because conceiving before ovulation decreases the numbers of Y or boy producing sperm and would therefore make a girl more likely.
It's so important that you understand this.
With that said, there's nothing inherently wrong with having sex frequently during your conception window.
For example, in the scenario above, the woman writing wanted to conceive a boy.
Let's say she was using an ovulation predictor and determined that on a Monday morning, ovulation had occurred.
Once she got this positive signal, there was nothing wrong with having sex multiple times that day or into the next.
This is fine as long as ovulation has occurred.
And although the first attempt at conception was probably going to give her the highest chance of success, her subsequent attempts wouldn't hurt her chances since ovulation has already happened.
But now let's flip the scenario and assume that we're talking about a couple that wants a girl.
Now let's say that on that same Monday they learned from a saliva predictor that ovulation was a couple of days away.
This is a good time to have intercourse for a girl baby.
And while it's OK to continue to have intercourse until ovulation happens, once testing shows you that you have ovulated, it's my opinion that you should stop having sex at that time.
Because continuing to try to conceive past ovulation is going to increase your chances of getting a boy baby.
And since you have no way of knowing which conception attempt actually results in a pregnancy, then in my opinion, it's just not worth the risk.
So to answer the question posed, the frequency of sex isn't nearly as important as the timing of sex.
And if you're having so much intercourse that you go before or after your optimal day (depending on which gender you want,) then that could hurt your chances of getting the gender that you want.