Getting Over A Broken Heart
The sleepless nights, loss of appetite, the constantly wondering where you ex is, what they are doing and who they are with... how much more can you take? The grief of getting over a broken heart can seem unbearable at times. What can you do? Will you ever feel normal again? And is possible to get back together with your ex? If a reunion is what you truly want, then there are certain things you must do in order to win back your ex. And more importantly, you must avoid certain mistakes that almost everyone makes when trying to salvage a broken relationship.
You must ask yourself if getting back together is what you truly want. Is it what's best for both of you? Be honest with yourself and make sure you're not just going through separation anxiety.
If a second chance is what you honestly want, then the first thing you must do is stop any pushy or needy behavior. When you come across as desperate you give away all your power. Trying to convince your ex to get back together will only push them away. This means absolutely no more late night phone calls, emails, pleading, etc.
By giving your ex their space, you allow them to naturally start coming back to you again. Think about it... if someone is throwing themselves at you, what's your initial reaction? Usually you are unattracted to that person. At the very least you'll take them for granted.
Develop an attitude of detachment. Yes, this is easier said then done, especially if you're getting over a broken heart and you're frantic to fix things. You must make yourself do this. It helps to stay busy doing things that make you happy and improve your life. Not only will this help you regain your independence, but it will also send a message to your ex that your life is going great without them.
This approach is very powerful. That's because you're working with human nature instead of against it. If you resist the temptation to start acting needy and instead adopt an attitude of independence and detachment, you'll be surprised at how quickly your ex will regain interest. Then you'll both be in a position to work out your problems as equals.
You must ask yourself if getting back together is what you truly want. Is it what's best for both of you? Be honest with yourself and make sure you're not just going through separation anxiety.
If a second chance is what you honestly want, then the first thing you must do is stop any pushy or needy behavior. When you come across as desperate you give away all your power. Trying to convince your ex to get back together will only push them away. This means absolutely no more late night phone calls, emails, pleading, etc.
By giving your ex their space, you allow them to naturally start coming back to you again. Think about it... if someone is throwing themselves at you, what's your initial reaction? Usually you are unattracted to that person. At the very least you'll take them for granted.
Develop an attitude of detachment. Yes, this is easier said then done, especially if you're getting over a broken heart and you're frantic to fix things. You must make yourself do this. It helps to stay busy doing things that make you happy and improve your life. Not only will this help you regain your independence, but it will also send a message to your ex that your life is going great without them.
This approach is very powerful. That's because you're working with human nature instead of against it. If you resist the temptation to start acting needy and instead adopt an attitude of independence and detachment, you'll be surprised at how quickly your ex will regain interest. Then you'll both be in a position to work out your problems as equals.