Get Him Back - Are You Wasting Your Time?
While you might be tempted to spend your time after your breakup wildly searching for a solution to the problem of how to get him back there really are other things that you could be doing to improve your chances of actually getting him back. Many women fall into the trap of thinking that there is a secret phrase or line that they can say to their ex that will automatically make him change his mind and come running back to them. The sad truth is that there really isn't one line or secret word that is going to turn things around for you and your ex and if you are like most women you are wasting a lot of time right now.
If you find yourself crying a lot or just sitting around the house depressed over your breakup thinking that you will never get him back you are wasting your time. Yes, a good cry every once in a while feels really good and crying until you're all cried out has it's benefits but this shouldn't be a part of your daily routine. Thinking positive about your chances of getting him back and having the confidence that you can turn things around should be your mantra. After all, he fell in love with you once before. What makes you think that you can't do it again? There was once something very special about you that he found irresistible and you are still that same person that he fell in love with. Even if there is another woman sniffing around, you still have the upper hand because he loved you and knew you in a way that no other woman ever has.
Sitting around eating chocolate chip cookie dough with a fork isn't going to get him back and neglecting your appearance only makes you feel worse about the whole situation. How are you going to feel if he shows up at the door while you have a roll of cookie dough in one hand, a fork in the other, no makeup and sporting a pair of sweat pants? Your outward appearance reflects your inner appearance and sometimes it can help your inner worth to look your best... and you never know if he might just pop in to see how you are doing. It has been known to happen and you never know when he might just have a breakdown and decide that he made a terrible mistake. So look your best and feel your best.
Letting your mind wander in direction that it aught not is another mistake that many women make. Wondering if he is really serious about this breakup or if there's another woman are only a couple of the thoughts that you should try to keep out of your mind. No good can come from worrying if he is moving on with another woman and the jealousy that can ensure is not good for your mental well being. The fact is that you have little or no control over what he does and right now your job is to pull yourself together and prepare yourself to get your man back.
And how are you actually going to get him back? Well, other than pulling yourself together emotionally and putting the cookie dough down, your game plan should be to figure out what you can do to minimize the damage already done to your relationship since the breakup and then what you can do to actually attract him back to you again. If you've been spending a lot of time trying to talk through your problems with him and trying to force him to see that you really do love him there's a very good chance that you've only succeeded in making things worse. Your man will only come back to you once the pain of being apart from you and the desire to be with you becomes too much for him to bear. That is when you will begin to see a change in him and this is when things get really interesting. This is when most women feel a shift in the relationship and start to have the confidence that they indeed can get their man back.
Many women jump the gun though. Many women see that look in their guy's eye and they know that they've got him and then they push for their ex to commit to the relationship again. Sadly, they often only wind up pushing him away again. The key is in knowing how to play on his emotions and making him crazy with desire. Making him just about beg for forgiveness and for a second chance may sound cruel but it is the only way that you're going to have the security that you crave in your relationship and the only way that you're really going to get your man to commit again. Many times when a woman gives in and leads a man back into a relationship just a little prematurely... when they make it easy on their ex, he winds up leaving again which only makes getting him back again all that more difficult in the long run.
Click Here to learn more about what it takes to get your ex boyfriend back. Discover how other women have quickly and easily ended the pain of their breakup and gotten their ex back.
If you find yourself crying a lot or just sitting around the house depressed over your breakup thinking that you will never get him back you are wasting your time. Yes, a good cry every once in a while feels really good and crying until you're all cried out has it's benefits but this shouldn't be a part of your daily routine. Thinking positive about your chances of getting him back and having the confidence that you can turn things around should be your mantra. After all, he fell in love with you once before. What makes you think that you can't do it again? There was once something very special about you that he found irresistible and you are still that same person that he fell in love with. Even if there is another woman sniffing around, you still have the upper hand because he loved you and knew you in a way that no other woman ever has.
Sitting around eating chocolate chip cookie dough with a fork isn't going to get him back and neglecting your appearance only makes you feel worse about the whole situation. How are you going to feel if he shows up at the door while you have a roll of cookie dough in one hand, a fork in the other, no makeup and sporting a pair of sweat pants? Your outward appearance reflects your inner appearance and sometimes it can help your inner worth to look your best... and you never know if he might just pop in to see how you are doing. It has been known to happen and you never know when he might just have a breakdown and decide that he made a terrible mistake. So look your best and feel your best.
Letting your mind wander in direction that it aught not is another mistake that many women make. Wondering if he is really serious about this breakup or if there's another woman are only a couple of the thoughts that you should try to keep out of your mind. No good can come from worrying if he is moving on with another woman and the jealousy that can ensure is not good for your mental well being. The fact is that you have little or no control over what he does and right now your job is to pull yourself together and prepare yourself to get your man back.
And how are you actually going to get him back? Well, other than pulling yourself together emotionally and putting the cookie dough down, your game plan should be to figure out what you can do to minimize the damage already done to your relationship since the breakup and then what you can do to actually attract him back to you again. If you've been spending a lot of time trying to talk through your problems with him and trying to force him to see that you really do love him there's a very good chance that you've only succeeded in making things worse. Your man will only come back to you once the pain of being apart from you and the desire to be with you becomes too much for him to bear. That is when you will begin to see a change in him and this is when things get really interesting. This is when most women feel a shift in the relationship and start to have the confidence that they indeed can get their man back.
Many women jump the gun though. Many women see that look in their guy's eye and they know that they've got him and then they push for their ex to commit to the relationship again. Sadly, they often only wind up pushing him away again. The key is in knowing how to play on his emotions and making him crazy with desire. Making him just about beg for forgiveness and for a second chance may sound cruel but it is the only way that you're going to have the security that you crave in your relationship and the only way that you're really going to get your man to commit again. Many times when a woman gives in and leads a man back into a relationship just a little prematurely... when they make it easy on their ex, he winds up leaving again which only makes getting him back again all that more difficult in the long run.
Click Here to learn more about what it takes to get your ex boyfriend back. Discover how other women have quickly and easily ended the pain of their breakup and gotten their ex back.