The Worst Breakup Advice You Ever Heard
Breaking up...
it's why you're here.
Chances are good that if you're reading this, you got dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Sorry to hear it.
It can hurt like the end of the world.
But if you're currently trying to get back together with your ex, you may already be wondering why nothing you've done seems to have worked so far.
There's an incredible amount of bad advice floating around when it comes to repairing a relationship.
Some of it is actually the worst breakup advice you ever heard.
Yet people follow it anyway, not really sure of what to do.
Today however, I'm going to put an end to some of the more common rumors when it comes to reversing your breakup.
Bad Piece of Advice #1 - "You Should Sit Down and Tell Your Ex Exactly How You Feel About Him/Her...
" Yikes.
Not only is this a bad idea, it's actually the last thing your ex girlfriend or boyfriend wants to hear after they break up with you.
Sitting down and trying to change your ex's mind by laying out your "true feelings" is like trying to put a collapsed building back together with Elmer's glue.
Not only does your ex not want this, but he or she might actually resent you for it.
Understand something: when your ex ends your relationship, they're going to feel very funny around you for the next few weeks.
They've just hurt your feelings, and they know you're still emotionally attached.
Think they want to sit down and hear how much you love them? Not a chance.
Maybe such words would've been nice while you were dating, but now that you've been dumped your ex will take your little speech for exactly what it is: you trying to change their mind after the fact.
Bad Piece of Advice #2 - "You Should Call Your Ex Casually, Just To Say Hi" Wow...
this one's outright terrible.
Trying to get in touch with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after he or she breaks up with you marks you as desperate, needy, and totally weak.
There's no such thing as an innocent phone call to your ex.
Calling to see how they're doing...
calling to see when you can come pick up your DVD collection...
these things are all masking the real reason you're calling your ex: just to hear his or her voice.
Your ex knows this, and moreover, realizes why you're doing it.
Withdrawing totally from your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend's life may be one of the hardest things for you to do, but it's also one of the biggest steps you can take toward getting your ex back.
Only by making your ex miss you will they want you in their life again.
And you know what? Your ex can't miss you if you're always around...
calling them up...
putting yourself in plain view.
You need to retreat after being dumped, not advance.
Calling your ex is a form of chasing them, and will always diminish your chances of getting back together again.
Bad Piece of Advice #3 - "Tell Your Ex That You'll Change For Them" This one's so bad I'm not even going to go into it.
You should never, EVER offer to change yourself for somebody else.
Be the person that your ex fell in love with - and that's it.
Trying to be someone you're not is always going to end badly.
Bad Piece of Advice #4 - "Offer To Be Friends With Your Ex" Hands down, this is the absolute holy grail of all terrible advice.
Being friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after a relationship ends is one of the WORST ways of getting them back.
The ex-friendship relationship simply doesn't exist: even the people who think (or try to convince themselves) that they're "friends with their ex" are really just hanging in there on the desperate chance they get back together again.
Jealousy, misery, and pain follow closely on the heels of such an arrangement, especially if you're still in love with your ex, and you have to watch as they begin dating someone else.
Friendship is NOT a substitution for a real relationship - not even temporarily.
If you want your ex back? You need to make all the moves necessary to get to that point again.
The transition from friendship back to romance just doesn't happen...
or if it does, it's always temporary.
Once you've become friends with an ex, there's no going back to what you once had.
Period.
Stepping in bad advice along the road to reconciliation can really hurt your chances of dating your ex again.
While there's also a lot of good advice out there, you need to identify and sift through it before coming up with a plan of action.
And having a step-by-step plan is vital.
You can't get your ex back by winging it, or hoping that things will magically fall into place.
Only be learning the right moves, and executing them at the right times, can you get your ex to reverse his or her decision to end your romance.
it's why you're here.
Chances are good that if you're reading this, you got dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Sorry to hear it.
It can hurt like the end of the world.
But if you're currently trying to get back together with your ex, you may already be wondering why nothing you've done seems to have worked so far.
There's an incredible amount of bad advice floating around when it comes to repairing a relationship.
Some of it is actually the worst breakup advice you ever heard.
Yet people follow it anyway, not really sure of what to do.
Today however, I'm going to put an end to some of the more common rumors when it comes to reversing your breakup.
Bad Piece of Advice #1 - "You Should Sit Down and Tell Your Ex Exactly How You Feel About Him/Her...
" Yikes.
Not only is this a bad idea, it's actually the last thing your ex girlfriend or boyfriend wants to hear after they break up with you.
Sitting down and trying to change your ex's mind by laying out your "true feelings" is like trying to put a collapsed building back together with Elmer's glue.
Not only does your ex not want this, but he or she might actually resent you for it.
Understand something: when your ex ends your relationship, they're going to feel very funny around you for the next few weeks.
They've just hurt your feelings, and they know you're still emotionally attached.
Think they want to sit down and hear how much you love them? Not a chance.
Maybe such words would've been nice while you were dating, but now that you've been dumped your ex will take your little speech for exactly what it is: you trying to change their mind after the fact.
Bad Piece of Advice #2 - "You Should Call Your Ex Casually, Just To Say Hi" Wow...
this one's outright terrible.
Trying to get in touch with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after he or she breaks up with you marks you as desperate, needy, and totally weak.
There's no such thing as an innocent phone call to your ex.
Calling to see how they're doing...
calling to see when you can come pick up your DVD collection...
these things are all masking the real reason you're calling your ex: just to hear his or her voice.
Your ex knows this, and moreover, realizes why you're doing it.
Withdrawing totally from your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend's life may be one of the hardest things for you to do, but it's also one of the biggest steps you can take toward getting your ex back.
Only by making your ex miss you will they want you in their life again.
And you know what? Your ex can't miss you if you're always around...
calling them up...
putting yourself in plain view.
You need to retreat after being dumped, not advance.
Calling your ex is a form of chasing them, and will always diminish your chances of getting back together again.
Bad Piece of Advice #3 - "Tell Your Ex That You'll Change For Them" This one's so bad I'm not even going to go into it.
You should never, EVER offer to change yourself for somebody else.
Be the person that your ex fell in love with - and that's it.
Trying to be someone you're not is always going to end badly.
Bad Piece of Advice #4 - "Offer To Be Friends With Your Ex" Hands down, this is the absolute holy grail of all terrible advice.
Being friends with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend after a relationship ends is one of the WORST ways of getting them back.
The ex-friendship relationship simply doesn't exist: even the people who think (or try to convince themselves) that they're "friends with their ex" are really just hanging in there on the desperate chance they get back together again.
Jealousy, misery, and pain follow closely on the heels of such an arrangement, especially if you're still in love with your ex, and you have to watch as they begin dating someone else.
Friendship is NOT a substitution for a real relationship - not even temporarily.
If you want your ex back? You need to make all the moves necessary to get to that point again.
The transition from friendship back to romance just doesn't happen...
or if it does, it's always temporary.
Once you've become friends with an ex, there's no going back to what you once had.
Period.
Stepping in bad advice along the road to reconciliation can really hurt your chances of dating your ex again.
While there's also a lot of good advice out there, you need to identify and sift through it before coming up with a plan of action.
And having a step-by-step plan is vital.
You can't get your ex back by winging it, or hoping that things will magically fall into place.
Only be learning the right moves, and executing them at the right times, can you get your ex to reverse his or her decision to end your romance.