The news arrives and it is sit-down news.
Your fiance calls off the marriage.
This is devastating news and you shouldn't be sitting down for long.
You need to move on things as quick as you can so that you can fix the situation with your fiance.
Others would tell you that, soon after you receive this news, that you should give your fiance their space, give them time to go through their thoughts, etc.
But, if you wait too long, you could find yourself spreading further apart, until it is too late to fix things.
There are three things that you can do immediately to keep things together between the two of you long enough to work through this situation.
Let's go through these tips in more detail: First, you will want to remain calm, no matter how hard it seems for you to do.
This is a crucial step in this process, because you have to keep composed.
If you fall apart at the seams, it could create issues that only add to the situation.
Any heated words, or words spoken in a panicked frenzy, could blow up in your face and cause her to think that her decision to call of the marriage was the right thing for her to do.
You don't want this to happen, because she might think your immediate emotional panic is the real you, when it isn't.
So, by choosing not to panic, to keep your cool, you can help her keep focused on moving forward, and viewing the marriage postponement as a temporary roadblock.
Next, to tie in to the first tip, you want to open your ears and close your mouth.
Part of keeping calm is to just listen to her.
This is where you let her get all of her feelings out, so that you can find out what caused her to call off the marriage.
Not only do you want to take the time to listen to her, but you want to gain an understanding about what her feelings are, and what caused her to have wedding panic.
Some men might have a hard time just listening, but it is very much worth it, to resolve the issues that plague your relationship enough for her to postpone the marriage.
The last tip here, is where time comes to your rescue.
At the moment your fiance called of the marriage, feelings are "raw.
" At this point, she might have called off the marriage, but she hasn't called off the relationship.
She has just come from wanting to marry you, and it certainly doesn't stand to reason that she is suddenly turned off by you.
By listening to her, you can let her know that a little time is needed for her to have some "me" time, away from you.
As long as you to are able to remain together and not actually in official "break up" mode, so that you can work through things together, this should work.
This should only be necessary for a few months, long enough to resolve your issues.
She shouldn't have a problem granting you this time to take a step back, but to do it together, since she did drop a bombshell on you by calling off the marriage.
She owes you at least this one.
After a few months, you both will know if this relationship is ready to move forward together, or at least if it should end softly and without turmoil.
Whenever there is a marriage called off, it usually means that there are some unresolved issues from either the bride or the groom to be.
This should be an opportunity, not for war, but for peace talks, for working through things...
together.