For a lot of people, getting their ex back is not easy, and it's no surprise really because most people have no real understanding of how to go about it.
But if you are desperate to fix your relationship, there are definitely a few things you need to learn...
The first thing you need to do when the relationship has ended is to sort your head out.
You are probably still reeling from the drama of the break-up, and you will need to give this time to settle down.
Before you can sort your relationship out, you first need to sort yourself out.
It is essential that you do not involve your ex in this process.
You will need the space and distance form your ex to clear your head.
If you are still in contact with your ex in any way, then this will only make you vulnerable, and this will seriously harm your ability to make rational decisions about your life.
Make sure you give yourself space until you are over the initial shock of the break-up.
But you also need to make sure you do not spend too much time by yourself.
Having people around you will keep you level-headed and objective about your life.
If you spend too much time on your own then you stand the chance of becoming depressed, and this will only add another layer of problems for you to deal with.
So call up your friends, or make some new friends, and go out and enjoy yourself - anything to stop you from staying at home by yourself feeling down.
Once you have calmed down and you have cleared your head a bit, give some serious thought as to what went wrong in the relationship.
Be honest with yourself about any mistakes you may have made, or any ways in which you could possibly improve your behavior in the future.
If you feel yourself becoming too overwhelmed by trying to sort it all out by yourself, consider getting some help from a professional such as a relationship counselor.
Having an objective, trained listener can really help you to sort out what went wrong and help you to move forwards positively.