How to Make Co-Parenting Work For You
After a divorce, many children struggle with feelings of guilt, abandonment, anger and insecurity.
Some children describe the experience as having the ground crumble out from under them, leaving them frightened and distrustful.
This loss of trust takes love, time and consistency to rebuild.
To survive the effects of divorce, a child needs a continued loving relationship with both parents, if possible.
Through cooperative parenting, or "co-parenting," parents put aside personal grievances, to successfully parent their child.
Evidence shows that when divorced parents work together at parenting, children are more likely to make healthy adjustments.
Here are some tips for making co-parenting work for you: - With the help of a counselor, pastor or mediator, create a parenting plan that details a consistent and agreeable arrangement for co-parenting with your ex-spouse.
- Instead of trying to force the other parent to do it your way, help your children understand that there may be more than one way of doing things.
- Discuss parenting issues when the child is not present.
- Be flexible and understanding when things don't go as planned.
Show your child, by your attitude, how to "go with the flow" when necessary.
- Avoid criticizing or complaining about your ex-partner in the child's presence, as this will often cause the child to take sides, or be "two-faced" around each parent.
- Deliver your own messages; don't expect your child to do it.
- Realize that a problems will arise and be prepared to deal with them calmly.
- Always ask yourself, "What is best for my child?".
Even though a marriage may end, the responsibility of parenting does not.
Peaceful co-parenting can make a lifetime of difference for your child, by showing that you love him enough to keep both parents involved in his life.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
Some children describe the experience as having the ground crumble out from under them, leaving them frightened and distrustful.
This loss of trust takes love, time and consistency to rebuild.
To survive the effects of divorce, a child needs a continued loving relationship with both parents, if possible.
Through cooperative parenting, or "co-parenting," parents put aside personal grievances, to successfully parent their child.
Evidence shows that when divorced parents work together at parenting, children are more likely to make healthy adjustments.
Here are some tips for making co-parenting work for you: - With the help of a counselor, pastor or mediator, create a parenting plan that details a consistent and agreeable arrangement for co-parenting with your ex-spouse.
- Instead of trying to force the other parent to do it your way, help your children understand that there may be more than one way of doing things.
- Discuss parenting issues when the child is not present.
- Be flexible and understanding when things don't go as planned.
Show your child, by your attitude, how to "go with the flow" when necessary.
- Avoid criticizing or complaining about your ex-partner in the child's presence, as this will often cause the child to take sides, or be "two-faced" around each parent.
- Deliver your own messages; don't expect your child to do it.
- Realize that a problems will arise and be prepared to deal with them calmly.
- Always ask yourself, "What is best for my child?".
Even though a marriage may end, the responsibility of parenting does not.
Peaceful co-parenting can make a lifetime of difference for your child, by showing that you love him enough to keep both parents involved in his life.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?