What to Do When Someone Is Being Impatient
When someone is being impatient with us it can be easy to feel that we are to blame.
The force of their energy is often very strong as their levels of frustration rise.
We can end up becoming panicky and stressed as a result.
This can result in one of several options: we may become quiet in a bid to defuse the situation; make a mistake because we are rushing to complete whatever we are doing as quickly as possible; or we may feel that the quickest option is to agree and pretend to understand what is going on.
Often none of these options are a desirable result in the long term.
Let's look at some of the better options for when someone is being impatient: - Matching someone else's behaviour is a way of identifying with them and demonstrating that we value how they are feeling and appreciate their perspective.
Being equally impatient or urgent in our desire to resolve a matter can help them to feel that we empathise and acknowledge their viewpoint.
By behaving in this way it can then be possible to gradually guide them into becoming calmer.
- Being direct and gently asking the other person what the problem is can hold a mirror up to their behaviour.
It can bring the other person up short.
They have to stop for a moment, consider the question and decide how to respond.
Chances are that they are going to answer by denying that they are being impatient, or they may at least try to explain their behaviour.
It opens the opportunity to begin a more reasonable conversation.
- Subtlety can be used in trying to find out obliquely if they are under stress, what their problems are, if they are having difficulties in particular areas of their life.
Sometimes, if a person feels under pressure they can manifest their stress levels by becoming bad-tempered, frustrated, impatient.
Again, opening a conversation may enable them to discuss their problems and find better ways to deal with the situation.
It can help them to start seeing things from another perspective, maybe decide to ask for help, not take things so seriously.
- We may have to consider if someone has a point in being impatient.
If they have to continually explain something it can become tedious.
Are we being difficult or awkward, are they having to keep repeating the same information repeatedly to us or to other people.
This situation can become frustrating over time.
When someone is being impatient we are entitled to say that we want to be treated with respect and regard.
But it is also valid to appreciate the other person's point of view, especially if we care about them or have to work with them in close proximity.
Maybe try to understand what is happening with them and endeavour to turn the situation into a less stressful and more constructive environment.
That way everyone enjoys a better quality of life.
The force of their energy is often very strong as their levels of frustration rise.
We can end up becoming panicky and stressed as a result.
This can result in one of several options: we may become quiet in a bid to defuse the situation; make a mistake because we are rushing to complete whatever we are doing as quickly as possible; or we may feel that the quickest option is to agree and pretend to understand what is going on.
Often none of these options are a desirable result in the long term.
Let's look at some of the better options for when someone is being impatient: - Matching someone else's behaviour is a way of identifying with them and demonstrating that we value how they are feeling and appreciate their perspective.
Being equally impatient or urgent in our desire to resolve a matter can help them to feel that we empathise and acknowledge their viewpoint.
By behaving in this way it can then be possible to gradually guide them into becoming calmer.
- Being direct and gently asking the other person what the problem is can hold a mirror up to their behaviour.
It can bring the other person up short.
They have to stop for a moment, consider the question and decide how to respond.
Chances are that they are going to answer by denying that they are being impatient, or they may at least try to explain their behaviour.
It opens the opportunity to begin a more reasonable conversation.
- Subtlety can be used in trying to find out obliquely if they are under stress, what their problems are, if they are having difficulties in particular areas of their life.
Sometimes, if a person feels under pressure they can manifest their stress levels by becoming bad-tempered, frustrated, impatient.
Again, opening a conversation may enable them to discuss their problems and find better ways to deal with the situation.
It can help them to start seeing things from another perspective, maybe decide to ask for help, not take things so seriously.
- We may have to consider if someone has a point in being impatient.
If they have to continually explain something it can become tedious.
Are we being difficult or awkward, are they having to keep repeating the same information repeatedly to us or to other people.
This situation can become frustrating over time.
When someone is being impatient we are entitled to say that we want to be treated with respect and regard.
But it is also valid to appreciate the other person's point of view, especially if we care about them or have to work with them in close proximity.
Maybe try to understand what is happening with them and endeavour to turn the situation into a less stressful and more constructive environment.
That way everyone enjoys a better quality of life.