Issues to Address Before You Get Married
Your marriage is a deep and serious commitment, and before you jump into it there needs to be discussions about some issues between you and your fiance.
Love is great, but there will be a lot of lifetime issues to deal with, and if you want it too last a long time there's going to be work involved and everyone needs to be pulling or the same goal.
So sit and talk about the issues included here before you start all the wedding plans, and if there are disagreements here then the nuptials should wait.
Finances are a huge area of friction inside marriages everywhere.
So to avoid all that, talk about it now before you are married, determine which one is breadwinner, who pays the bills and will there be one bank account or two.
All of these need to be brought up and decided on before the marriage.
Having kids is a very important issue to discuss, because if partners are not in agreement on this the marriage plans may need to be reconsidered.
Don't consider going ahead hoping they will have a change of heart because that doesn't happen in most situations.
Having children has to be a solid decision made together before getting married.
Discussing expectations is important before you assume what the roles are going to be in marriage.
This may seem like something too simple but everyone has a different idea about how marriage works and who will do what in the marriage.
This is due to everyone seeing their parents and being programmed as a child as to who does what in the marriage.
Have a discussion about who will clean, cook and care for the kids, etc, it seems ridiculous but you don't want to find out later that there is a problem in this area.
Sex - Sexual compatibility is important.
If one person wants to have sex way more than the other already, then this could leave one partner unsatisfied and looking for love everywhere they go.
Make sure that you commit to have intimacy in your marriage and realize that although your sex drive may change somewhat, you need to make sure that you are sexually compatible for your marriage to succeed.
Love is great, but there will be a lot of lifetime issues to deal with, and if you want it too last a long time there's going to be work involved and everyone needs to be pulling or the same goal.
So sit and talk about the issues included here before you start all the wedding plans, and if there are disagreements here then the nuptials should wait.
Finances are a huge area of friction inside marriages everywhere.
So to avoid all that, talk about it now before you are married, determine which one is breadwinner, who pays the bills and will there be one bank account or two.
All of these need to be brought up and decided on before the marriage.
Having kids is a very important issue to discuss, because if partners are not in agreement on this the marriage plans may need to be reconsidered.
Don't consider going ahead hoping they will have a change of heart because that doesn't happen in most situations.
Having children has to be a solid decision made together before getting married.
Discussing expectations is important before you assume what the roles are going to be in marriage.
This may seem like something too simple but everyone has a different idea about how marriage works and who will do what in the marriage.
This is due to everyone seeing their parents and being programmed as a child as to who does what in the marriage.
Have a discussion about who will clean, cook and care for the kids, etc, it seems ridiculous but you don't want to find out later that there is a problem in this area.
Sex - Sexual compatibility is important.
If one person wants to have sex way more than the other already, then this could leave one partner unsatisfied and looking for love everywhere they go.
Make sure that you commit to have intimacy in your marriage and realize that although your sex drive may change somewhat, you need to make sure that you are sexually compatible for your marriage to succeed.