Is An Affair Really Worth The Risk?
It is so hard to make a marriage successful today that on average only 50% survive. Both spouses must be committed to the relationship and work at it to be happy. When a husband with a good marriage gets tempted and cheats, do you think he feels an affair was worth the risk when he gets caught and realizes the consequences?
A good marriage should be a partnership that requires each spouse to accept responsibility for duties that arise in most relationships. Some of these duties include; managing the house, raising children, school activities, care of elderly parents, emotional support for spouse, physical intimacy and finances. Add to those career demands on one or both spouses and it's hard to avoid making sacrifices more often than you would like.
It's all you can do to take care of what you have to do some days and it often leaves your spouse feeling left out. You do not mean to neglect your mate but it's hard to be a passionate lover when you are exhausted from all of your other family chores. When you are dealing with elderly parents who need extra care plus the children's needs, you can end the day feeling so emotionally and physically drained that you don't realize your husband's resentment for his desires being overlooked.
You should not feel guilty because you have responsibilities that can't be ignored, but neglecting your marriage will affect your relationship. However, your family obligations do not justify your spouse seeking an opportunity to cheat.
To maintain a good relationship, communicate with your spouse that you regret not spending as much time with him and that you will make up for it soon. This ought to improve his understanding and feelings of neglect.
Those who feel neglected and resentful enough to find affection by cheating often find they've done permanent damage to their marriage and come to deeply regret the affair. It can even lead to the end of their marriage.
Most cheaters find that by allowing their resentment to tempt them to look for thrills in an affair that they've put themselves in an emotional nightmare.
* The cheater will feel guilt because he knows he is doing something seriously wrong and that he is betraying his wife.
* Shame is also experienced because he knows that if the affair is discovered, friends and family will be disgusted by his actions.
* Cheaters also suffer fear because they know they are risking all that they have built with their spouse and the respect and loyalty of their family.
Cheating is an emotional disaster that will cause the wife great pain and feelings of betrayal. The cheater comes to realize that he is risking everything for just a cheap thrill. According to statistics this is the end for 50% of marriages.
It makes so much more sense to be open with each other and work on issues you feel are harming your relationship with your spouse instead of risking it all for a cheap thrill out of misplaced resentment.
A good marriage should be a partnership that requires each spouse to accept responsibility for duties that arise in most relationships. Some of these duties include; managing the house, raising children, school activities, care of elderly parents, emotional support for spouse, physical intimacy and finances. Add to those career demands on one or both spouses and it's hard to avoid making sacrifices more often than you would like.
It's all you can do to take care of what you have to do some days and it often leaves your spouse feeling left out. You do not mean to neglect your mate but it's hard to be a passionate lover when you are exhausted from all of your other family chores. When you are dealing with elderly parents who need extra care plus the children's needs, you can end the day feeling so emotionally and physically drained that you don't realize your husband's resentment for his desires being overlooked.
You should not feel guilty because you have responsibilities that can't be ignored, but neglecting your marriage will affect your relationship. However, your family obligations do not justify your spouse seeking an opportunity to cheat.
To maintain a good relationship, communicate with your spouse that you regret not spending as much time with him and that you will make up for it soon. This ought to improve his understanding and feelings of neglect.
Those who feel neglected and resentful enough to find affection by cheating often find they've done permanent damage to their marriage and come to deeply regret the affair. It can even lead to the end of their marriage.
Most cheaters find that by allowing their resentment to tempt them to look for thrills in an affair that they've put themselves in an emotional nightmare.
* The cheater will feel guilt because he knows he is doing something seriously wrong and that he is betraying his wife.
* Shame is also experienced because he knows that if the affair is discovered, friends and family will be disgusted by his actions.
* Cheaters also suffer fear because they know they are risking all that they have built with their spouse and the respect and loyalty of their family.
Cheating is an emotional disaster that will cause the wife great pain and feelings of betrayal. The cheater comes to realize that he is risking everything for just a cheap thrill. According to statistics this is the end for 50% of marriages.
It makes so much more sense to be open with each other and work on issues you feel are harming your relationship with your spouse instead of risking it all for a cheap thrill out of misplaced resentment.