Win Your Boyfriend Back: How to Save Your Relationship
So it happened; you broke up. You were a seemingly happy couple but then there was a misunderstanding or mistake made. You said things you didn't mean and so did he. Then it all came crumbling down. You really want him back but how can you reconcile? Follow these tips and you'll be on your way.
Start with you. To solve any problem, including relationship problems, you must identify what exactly the problem was. Take a hard look at the relationship and figure out where it went wrong, even if it was you. Be honest. Of course, it might not have been your fault. If the break-up happened more due to his issues then, unfortunately, there's not much you can do to fix it. If, however, you were the one who made some mistakes that set everything off, you can learn from them and possibly work things out.
Now that you've figured that out, you may think it's time to see him, talk things over and let him know how much you care. Hold off a little and be patient. Make sure as you're as beautiful as can be. Break-ups can have a heavy emotional effect on someone and even though we don't admit it, our emotional state can have an effect on how we look. Nights with no sleep or crying spells haven't done any favors to how you look. Beautify yourself to remind him of the woman he once fell in love with. Once he sees you again, he'll be more than willing to talk.
Friends have the ability to help sway our decisions. So, if you win over his friends, you can let them do some of your work for you. When you run into them, you can work your side of the story into your conversation. Avoid being dramatic or defensive. After that, let them make their own decisions. As long as you weren't pushy or needy, their comments to your boyfriend may be favorable and have a big influence on his decision.
Try to become the person he fell in love with once again. If you were the kind of person who liked long walks in the park or liked to go out for drinks, bring that person back. Be consistent with the way you once were (and possibly still are). We all change over time, just make sure you only change for the better.
Be optimistic. If you're depressed all the time or pessimistic about your efforts, your mission to win back your boyfriend may be over before you really get going. Avoid these mental states at all cost and if you can't do it on your own, get help. A positive attitude is not only going to keep you focused on your goal but it makes you look and feel more attractive.
Preserve your dignity. Before you set off on your task to win him back, you need to make sure your dignity is intact. You can show the love and affection you feel for someone but if you come off looking like a fool, he may not reciprocate. Also, if you push so far that you seem like a stalker, you can start looking elsewhere for love. Respect yourself and he will too.
Lastly, be absolutely sure that you really want him back. Your decisions are guided by your devotion and commitment. If your efforts are not producing the results you'd like, there's a chance you're not doing enough. Look at what you're doing and how you're coming across. If there's any doubt about truly wanting him back it will show.
Love is never easy. By following the tips above you may be able to win your boyfriend back. Just remember to be the best you can be. Be honest with him and yourself and be a good listener. Hopefully, before long, your man will be back where he belongs -- with you.
Start with you. To solve any problem, including relationship problems, you must identify what exactly the problem was. Take a hard look at the relationship and figure out where it went wrong, even if it was you. Be honest. Of course, it might not have been your fault. If the break-up happened more due to his issues then, unfortunately, there's not much you can do to fix it. If, however, you were the one who made some mistakes that set everything off, you can learn from them and possibly work things out.
Now that you've figured that out, you may think it's time to see him, talk things over and let him know how much you care. Hold off a little and be patient. Make sure as you're as beautiful as can be. Break-ups can have a heavy emotional effect on someone and even though we don't admit it, our emotional state can have an effect on how we look. Nights with no sleep or crying spells haven't done any favors to how you look. Beautify yourself to remind him of the woman he once fell in love with. Once he sees you again, he'll be more than willing to talk.
Friends have the ability to help sway our decisions. So, if you win over his friends, you can let them do some of your work for you. When you run into them, you can work your side of the story into your conversation. Avoid being dramatic or defensive. After that, let them make their own decisions. As long as you weren't pushy or needy, their comments to your boyfriend may be favorable and have a big influence on his decision.
Try to become the person he fell in love with once again. If you were the kind of person who liked long walks in the park or liked to go out for drinks, bring that person back. Be consistent with the way you once were (and possibly still are). We all change over time, just make sure you only change for the better.
Be optimistic. If you're depressed all the time or pessimistic about your efforts, your mission to win back your boyfriend may be over before you really get going. Avoid these mental states at all cost and if you can't do it on your own, get help. A positive attitude is not only going to keep you focused on your goal but it makes you look and feel more attractive.
Preserve your dignity. Before you set off on your task to win him back, you need to make sure your dignity is intact. You can show the love and affection you feel for someone but if you come off looking like a fool, he may not reciprocate. Also, if you push so far that you seem like a stalker, you can start looking elsewhere for love. Respect yourself and he will too.
Lastly, be absolutely sure that you really want him back. Your decisions are guided by your devotion and commitment. If your efforts are not producing the results you'd like, there's a chance you're not doing enough. Look at what you're doing and how you're coming across. If there's any doubt about truly wanting him back it will show.
Love is never easy. By following the tips above you may be able to win your boyfriend back. Just remember to be the best you can be. Be honest with him and yourself and be a good listener. Hopefully, before long, your man will be back where he belongs -- with you.