Anger, hate and greed kill trust.
It is innate that we will not trust the drama queen.
We do not trust highly emotional people, because we are intuitively aware that such people are dualistic in their nature.
They say one thing and can, with absolutely no conscience do another.
The leader who has no control over their anger, greed and hate (mostly expressed in judgement, criticism and over attachment to their ambition and work) will never achieve trust.
They will play all manner of games including hiring retreat leaders to replace their own lack of authenticity.
However, when the retreat leader leaves, or the convention is over, the speaker is gone and the leader is under the microscope.
Can we trust this person? This is the million dollar question.
And in more that 80% of the cases, in business, the answer is no.
People who are functioning at the lower end of the emotional scale cannot even trust themselves.
One minute highly attracted to something, the next in total repulsion or rejection of it.
They exhibit qualities of greed, like attachment, inflexibility and lack of transparency.
All human beings, especially when it comes to trust, have a radar for this lower emotional consciousness.
When it is detected, the trust is withdrawn and the leader is the leader no more.
In a relationship, trust will be given to the emotional person but there is an innate withholding.
Intimacy will suffer because we know, deep in our natural core, that the same energy that makes the emotional individual attracted to us, will be present with the same veracity when they repel.
It is impossible to hand trust to a highly emotional individual and those who do, do so at their own peril.
(usually only once in their life) It is ironic that the individual operating at their lower emotional levels will take the bate of handing trust to another person operating at lower emotional levels.
Even if it looks like one individual is emotional and the other is not.
This is because emotions at the lower levels can be expressed, (we call this extroverted) or repressed (we call this introverted).
One is silently judgemental, the other is outwardly judgemental.
One sees their emotional expression as productive the other sees their outer persona as best unemotional, so their emotion is hidden (not really you can see judgement and criticism, blame, hate, anger and greed attachment in a person's eyes) So, like attracts like.
Both eventually learn, to evolve their emotional expression.
It is also vital to understand that nature never destroys anything just builds new ones on top greater in consciousness (higher emotional expression) less in number (more focussed).
Hence, any human being wearing a robe of the saint, can, under specific circumstances revert to all the lower expressions of energy, like anger, hate and greed at any time.
This is human nature, and so, it is a process of life to sustain higher attitudes.
There is no permanent achievement of a state in which, the lower energy, lower emotions, of hate, greed and anger could not be expressed if the individual chose it.
  In fact, in some teachings it is suggested that this is the cycle of life and it can repeat in weeks if not days.
We achieve higher awareness, higher emotion, move from hate, anger and greed to kindness, generosity and compassion, only to discover something else we hate, fear or have anger about.
We then process that, and come to higher awareness again.
I tend to agree.
In fact, the last step on The Path, is, returning to the first step.
So, the commitment to higher awareness and higher emotion is not just a once off, one workshop, one healing session experience.
Nor is it a destination.
It is a process and the more a person commits to the process, the more trust they will receive from their peers, friends, lover and clients.
It is a process and it requires a significant balance in life in order not to slip off and do something that breaks a trust.
  People of higher awareness give more trust than those of lower awareness.
The reason is that with higher awareness people are aware that slips and expression of lower emotion are normal, that, unless a person is stuck in a lower emotional state, without aspiration for goodness, then, they will have their moments of unpredictability.
It is a reasonable expectation and a less judgemental one.
However, those of the lower awareness have narrow realms of trust, they have righteous bands of judgement, expectations and therefore, lose trust fast.
Trust is one of the most important of human values.
People give trust and people can withdraw it.
If we do not trust someone, no matter how well they sing, how much they sexually gratify us, no matter how educated they are, we will not enjoy their company.
Trust is by all means more important that love in a relationship.
You may love someone with all your heart but if there is no trust, there is no sustainable relationship.
Trust is also a leaders requisite.
Trust is the requisite of friendship and healing.
It is everything.
The higher your awareness the more people you can love (not judge) but this does not always translate to trust.
A person with higher awareness might have a great respect for the person of lower emotional awareness, the drama of their life, and therefore can respect, even love them, without placing trust in their hands.
It is mostly intuitive and natural even if, most people don't listen to it.
It is wise to separate love, trust and like.
We may love people (not judge them) but this does not mean we are required to like or trust them.
Hence, in relationship it is wiser to live with the person you trust and like.
Love, non judgement, can follow.