Worry Is Not Your Friend
It's perfectly true that worrying is not your friend, but it's such a shame.
We could make friends with worry, if only it led to positive solutions.
Then again, there is a type of worry that leads to positive solutions.
It's called problem solving.
We want to make a machine to carry out a series of actions.
First of all, we see its bare bones in our mind's eye.
Then we couple it to the actions we wish it to take.
Next, we go to the drawing board and draw it out.
Finally, we make the article and it works perfectly.
But here we have control over a problem that isn't only useful, but which may be satisfactorily solved.
But take the person who's always worrying about whether or not a person/people are going to like them.
There's really very little you can do about this.
They'll either like you or they won't.
They're far more likely to like you if you don't behave like a gibbering idiot.
But all things being equal, and you're a perfectly normal person at a party with lots of other people, a few may dislike you, more will like you and the rest will consider you with polite indifference.
Mind you, there's the third situation where you're all as drunk as coots.
Then, you're fine.
Every drunk loves another! To rid yourself of worrying all the time, you must face the worry.
Another problem rears its head here, of course.
If you're the type of person who simply--worries.
No rhyme nor reason.
Ask them what's worrying them and they just won't know.
Now, if the worry is cogent; in other words you're afraid you're becoming overweight, then you can take this worry by the scruff of the neck and do something about it.
Exercise.
Diet.
Anything, but at least it's a real worry.
Worrying is self-hypnotic.
Negative, at the moment, so we must turn it round to a positive state and use that hypnosis so that although worry is not your friend at the moment, we'll turn it around so that it becomes your friend.
There are a few useful points to bear in mind about worry.
For one thing, it's stimulating.
As well as raising your blood pressure, it raises the levels of your system with adrenaline and cortisol, the latter being a stress hormone.
Worrying signals to the brain that there's a threat out there and this is why you have so much trouble sleeping.
You're worrying about something, so your body's all pumped up into the 'fight or flight' mode.
We've agreed that you're not worrying about anything real, haven't we? If you ask yourself what it is that you're worrying about, you don't know.
Now, strongly imagine that whatever those worries might have been, they're being taken away from you by hypnosis.
Lie down and strongly imagine all this.
Go to your quiet, secret place (in your mind), where harm can never come to you, but it doesn't allow worry through the gates.
I'm not saying you use that.
Just whatever works for you.
The idea is to rid yourself of that imaginary worry.
Since worry is self-hypnotic, turn it round by exercising positive self-hypnosis.
We could make friends with worry, if only it led to positive solutions.
Then again, there is a type of worry that leads to positive solutions.
It's called problem solving.
We want to make a machine to carry out a series of actions.
First of all, we see its bare bones in our mind's eye.
Then we couple it to the actions we wish it to take.
Next, we go to the drawing board and draw it out.
Finally, we make the article and it works perfectly.
But here we have control over a problem that isn't only useful, but which may be satisfactorily solved.
But take the person who's always worrying about whether or not a person/people are going to like them.
There's really very little you can do about this.
They'll either like you or they won't.
They're far more likely to like you if you don't behave like a gibbering idiot.
But all things being equal, and you're a perfectly normal person at a party with lots of other people, a few may dislike you, more will like you and the rest will consider you with polite indifference.
Mind you, there's the third situation where you're all as drunk as coots.
Then, you're fine.
Every drunk loves another! To rid yourself of worrying all the time, you must face the worry.
Another problem rears its head here, of course.
If you're the type of person who simply--worries.
No rhyme nor reason.
Ask them what's worrying them and they just won't know.
Now, if the worry is cogent; in other words you're afraid you're becoming overweight, then you can take this worry by the scruff of the neck and do something about it.
Exercise.
Diet.
Anything, but at least it's a real worry.
Worrying is self-hypnotic.
Negative, at the moment, so we must turn it round to a positive state and use that hypnosis so that although worry is not your friend at the moment, we'll turn it around so that it becomes your friend.
There are a few useful points to bear in mind about worry.
For one thing, it's stimulating.
As well as raising your blood pressure, it raises the levels of your system with adrenaline and cortisol, the latter being a stress hormone.
Worrying signals to the brain that there's a threat out there and this is why you have so much trouble sleeping.
You're worrying about something, so your body's all pumped up into the 'fight or flight' mode.
We've agreed that you're not worrying about anything real, haven't we? If you ask yourself what it is that you're worrying about, you don't know.
Now, strongly imagine that whatever those worries might have been, they're being taken away from you by hypnosis.
Lie down and strongly imagine all this.
Go to your quiet, secret place (in your mind), where harm can never come to you, but it doesn't allow worry through the gates.
I'm not saying you use that.
Just whatever works for you.
The idea is to rid yourself of that imaginary worry.
Since worry is self-hypnotic, turn it round by exercising positive self-hypnosis.