How to Tell Your Partner About Your Genital Warts
Whenever you're diagnosed with genital warts it can be a jarring experience.
You might be feeling alone, confused, afraid or a combination of all three.
You're not sure what your options are or who to trust for reliable information.
This holds double when you haven't yet told your partner, or if there's someone new in your life you'd like to continue dating.
The thought that goes through most people's minds is: "How will my partner react? Will he/she leave me? I don't want to deal with this alone.
" How your partner reacts to the news will depend on 3 things: 1.
Whether or not he/she was involved in the spread of the genital warts (e.
g.
Was he/she the person who gave it to you?) 2.
How he/she has been conditioned over the years to think about sex and related diseases.
And most importantly...
3.
Whether or not you have any good news to tell after you tell him/her about the genital warts.
You can't control #1 or #2 - it is what it is.
However, if he/she was the person who gave it to you, the news will probably go over slightly better than if you caught it from cheating and now you might have given it to them.
But the one you really need to consider is #3 - what GOOD news can you tell him/her after you break the news about the warts? This is important because if you go into this situation unprepared, you'll only succeed in worrying them to death about the problem too.
And if they're touchy about it, the whole thing could ruin your relationship.
It doesn't have to be that way though.
Think of it this way: You can make it a better situation (and they'll take the news with less worry) if you can present a possible SOLUTION to the problem you just presented.
It would go something like this: "I think you may have given me something whenever we had sex...
but don't worry because I've already done a lot of research online and I'm starting a treatment immediately.
" Approaching the situation in this way is a one-two punch of negative followed by positive.
It will make the news that much easier to deal with.
Hey, getting an STD is a terrible thing no matter which way you look at it.
But approaching your delivery of the news in this way can certainly lighten the load.
You might be feeling alone, confused, afraid or a combination of all three.
You're not sure what your options are or who to trust for reliable information.
This holds double when you haven't yet told your partner, or if there's someone new in your life you'd like to continue dating.
The thought that goes through most people's minds is: "How will my partner react? Will he/she leave me? I don't want to deal with this alone.
" How your partner reacts to the news will depend on 3 things: 1.
Whether or not he/she was involved in the spread of the genital warts (e.
g.
Was he/she the person who gave it to you?) 2.
How he/she has been conditioned over the years to think about sex and related diseases.
And most importantly...
3.
Whether or not you have any good news to tell after you tell him/her about the genital warts.
You can't control #1 or #2 - it is what it is.
However, if he/she was the person who gave it to you, the news will probably go over slightly better than if you caught it from cheating and now you might have given it to them.
But the one you really need to consider is #3 - what GOOD news can you tell him/her after you break the news about the warts? This is important because if you go into this situation unprepared, you'll only succeed in worrying them to death about the problem too.
And if they're touchy about it, the whole thing could ruin your relationship.
It doesn't have to be that way though.
Think of it this way: You can make it a better situation (and they'll take the news with less worry) if you can present a possible SOLUTION to the problem you just presented.
It would go something like this: "I think you may have given me something whenever we had sex...
but don't worry because I've already done a lot of research online and I'm starting a treatment immediately.
" Approaching the situation in this way is a one-two punch of negative followed by positive.
It will make the news that much easier to deal with.
Hey, getting an STD is a terrible thing no matter which way you look at it.
But approaching your delivery of the news in this way can certainly lighten the load.