Why You Should Not Get Your Ex Back
Let me explain; 1.
Abuse.
What if your ex (boyfriend or girlfriend) is abusive? And I mean all kinds of abusive; sexual, emotional, physical and on and on.
Do you just stick it out and hope they will change? Usually, it takes more than hope for the abusers to change.
I mean come on, it's not like your relationship is binding as marriage is.
You are still boyfriend and girlfriend for goodness sake.
2.
Plain o' Different.
Sometimes you just have to come to terms with the fact that you are facing different directions in life.
No matter how much you try to get back together, if your life goals are diametrically opposed to each other, then you are better off letting them go.
I recall a time when I had to let a great girl go because we were headed in different directions in terms of life goals and it has turned out to be a happy ending for me.
3.
Dig up the reason.
You ought to keep in mind why you broke up in the first place.
It could reveal character traits that you may find hard to put up with in the long run.
Any by the way, don't kid yourself into thinking you can change them.
An example I have in mind is a relationship of some friends of mine in college.
Almost all the time they had a disagreement of some sort, they would end the relationship.
This happened no less than once in the four years of college.
No kidding.
So here is the question: If they ended up married, and they disagreed (and in marriage that is guaranteed), will they keep on breaking up to make up to break up to...
you get the picture.
It's not worth it in marriage.
Been around the block a while.
I am sure there are more reasons why you should not always get your ex back.
I am aware that the reasons change on a case by case basis.
But the one thing I have come to realize is that it is not always a must that you must have your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back.
Ex wife or husband is another matter altogether.
Abuse.
What if your ex (boyfriend or girlfriend) is abusive? And I mean all kinds of abusive; sexual, emotional, physical and on and on.
Do you just stick it out and hope they will change? Usually, it takes more than hope for the abusers to change.
I mean come on, it's not like your relationship is binding as marriage is.
You are still boyfriend and girlfriend for goodness sake.
2.
Plain o' Different.
Sometimes you just have to come to terms with the fact that you are facing different directions in life.
No matter how much you try to get back together, if your life goals are diametrically opposed to each other, then you are better off letting them go.
I recall a time when I had to let a great girl go because we were headed in different directions in terms of life goals and it has turned out to be a happy ending for me.
3.
Dig up the reason.
You ought to keep in mind why you broke up in the first place.
It could reveal character traits that you may find hard to put up with in the long run.
Any by the way, don't kid yourself into thinking you can change them.
An example I have in mind is a relationship of some friends of mine in college.
Almost all the time they had a disagreement of some sort, they would end the relationship.
This happened no less than once in the four years of college.
No kidding.
So here is the question: If they ended up married, and they disagreed (and in marriage that is guaranteed), will they keep on breaking up to make up to break up to...
you get the picture.
It's not worth it in marriage.
Been around the block a while.
I am sure there are more reasons why you should not always get your ex back.
I am aware that the reasons change on a case by case basis.
But the one thing I have come to realize is that it is not always a must that you must have your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back.
Ex wife or husband is another matter altogether.