No one ever tells you how hard it is to raise a child because there are no words and no language to express that ever important life changing journey.
You can't sum it up in a word or even two words; job doesn't really cut it because it's so much more.
It's like handing over the controls of your life to someone who doesn't know the difference between the brake and the accelerator and being a passenger.
It's hard to accept that role and that is mostly why it's a rough trip for most.
Newton's first law does not apply here; in fact it does not exist in the alternate universe of life that is created when you yourself create and bring life into the world.
Let me explain, Newton's first law is the law of inertia and it states that; "A body continues to maintain its state of rest or of uniform motion unless acted upon by an external unbalanced force.
" This does not apply once your a parent you won't remember what a state of rest is until you enter into it.
I am not trying to be morbid but it's the truth no matter what you'll always be a parent and that means you'll always be in uniform motion so to speak.
It's a life long career if you will.
I am learning now that I have children of my own I need my mother more and since I have three I think she is involved more in some aspects than she was when I was at home.
She has gone from being my parent, to my friend and now my confidant and mentor.
At least that is how it should go; I am one of the lucky ones who gets to see that metamorphosis play out.
Newton's second law states , "F = ma: the net force on an object is equal to the mass of the object multiplied by its acceleration.
" Be careful to honor your mother and father because whether you like it or not "the apple does not fall far from the tree.
" Yes, your indiscretions as a child will come back to haunt you someday and as it stands to reason with each passing generation things are perfected and in some cases that is an earth shattering thought.
You thought it was funny when you caused your parents to have to re-roof the entire house because you bumped the shower head and inadvertently made them think the roof was leaking.
But little did you know ten years later your offspring would insight a flood of massive proportions single-handedly flooding your two story home at the tender age of four and causing your insurance company to non-renew your policy.
If we only knew what choices would we avoid making; but of course where's the adventure in that.
Now to the third and last of Newton's laws which is "To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
" This is the law of the teenage years; yes how easily teenage years are summed up.
Now I am not a mother of teenagers yet but having not been one that long ago myself I shudder at the prospect of having three of them all at the same time.
Every action that a parent performs there is definitely and equal and opposite one from their teenager.
Everything will always be taken the opposite of what you intend and with much ferocity an opposite reaction will be presented.
No matter what you do it's the law so just accept it and know like my mother always tells me "It won't be like this forever.
" Now you can take that two ways, positively or negatively.
If your a new parent soak it up; they do grow up fast and it won't be like this forever.
They won't always smile and want to play with you for hours.
They won't always be content with some cheerios and a bottle.
So enjoy it while it lasts.
On the negative side if you are about to shave your head and move to Mexico and start the PWPP (Parent Witness Protection Program) reconsider and write this in your shower.
It won't always be like this forever.
One day they will grow up and if they don't tell you that you were right you will know.
They'll ask your opinion and want your advice and want you again.
At some point they will need you so be prepared and accept it as a pleasant surprise.
The one thing that I think most people don't get and maybe it's just me is that this parenting stuff is not just about parents raising kids.
It's about kids raising us parents.
They force us to see things we didn't even notice before.
They force us to see in ourselves what we had no idea we were capable of and they force us to love unconditionally.
I think the truth is sometimes little miracles happen when we're distracted and once in a great while that epiphany drops out of the clear blue sky like an anvil from bugs bunny and we see clearly.
And everything is how it should be and all is right with the world.
We finally have what it takes to "see the world in a grain of sand.
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