Miscarriage matters.
Maybe somebody you know or love has experienced miscarriage or stillbirth and you are not sure how to respond.
What should you do? What should you say? You may sense that something important has taken place in this person's life, but you are not sure how to connect or support them.
Fear of Saying the 'Wrong' Thing After Miscarriage or Stillbirth You don't know how to treat the situation.
Does he/she feel that she has lost a baby? Or is miscarriage or stillbirth much less intimate than that? It can be very confusing.
Especially when you care about the person who has experienced the miscarriage/stillbirth.
All too often this confusion and fear of making an inappropriate comment has paralysed people into silence leaving both parties feeling awkward and sad.
What You Can Safely Say after Miscarriage or Stillbirth Instead of feeling the pressure of having to say something about the miscarriage / stillbirth (and not knowing what to say), it can be very useful to just ask a question.
You don't really know what is going on for parents who have experienced miscarriage or stillbirth, but a question like 'How is this for you?' or 'Would you like to tell me about it' gives grieving couples the opportunity to talk or otherwise.
Sometimes all they want is for people to acknowledge that their baby has died or that miscarriage matters.
They don't expect you to make it better.
But the silence can be very painful.
Be kind to yourself.
There is no pressure.
But if it feels right, do reach out and ask.