Parenting Tips - How to Connect With Your Children Without Going Overboard
Every parent wants to learn how to communicate well connected with their children.
The kids who have parents who are involved often have higher levels of self-esteem and confidence.
Their involvement in school, the quality of their work and involvement with extracurricular activities seems to be much greater when parents are involved.
There is a fine line, a balancing point, where is the boundary of the lie between healthy parental involvement and overindulgence? It's very important to realize that boundaries do exist and that a critical part of growing up for child developing and exploring independence and self growth.
Remember that the goal here is connecting with your child in becoming involved with their life without being overly intrusive.
All kids need to feel that their privacy and their own personal space will be respected in an appropriate fashion.
Again, this is a boundary issue.
On the one hand children need supervision, but on the other hand they need a sense of independence and self achievement.
It is very tempting, under the guise of "having your child succeed" to step in and actually do their work for them.
This can be detrimental.
Remember justice much is learned by children making mistakes as from having successes.
It is your job as a parent support and encourage your child when they do a particular job well.
It is also your job as a parent to step back and allow children to make their own mistakes and learn from.
There is a lot of parental pride to be gained by watching your child develop as an individual in learning to do things for themselves.
After all, there are many ways to accomplish a task it is a parent's duty to let the child or various ways to both succeed and to fail.
The beauty of it is we can learn from our own children.
When it comes to your child's friends and peers the real trick is to provide guidance and be available for advice and discussion while allowing them to develop their own peer support group.
Sometimes it is hard to stand back and simply be available to your child when you're dying to actually fix the problem.
In the long run however security and confidence your child will gain by knowing that you are there to support them in both successes and failure will create the connectivity that you're looking for.
The kids who have parents who are involved often have higher levels of self-esteem and confidence.
Their involvement in school, the quality of their work and involvement with extracurricular activities seems to be much greater when parents are involved.
There is a fine line, a balancing point, where is the boundary of the lie between healthy parental involvement and overindulgence? It's very important to realize that boundaries do exist and that a critical part of growing up for child developing and exploring independence and self growth.
Remember that the goal here is connecting with your child in becoming involved with their life without being overly intrusive.
All kids need to feel that their privacy and their own personal space will be respected in an appropriate fashion.
Again, this is a boundary issue.
On the one hand children need supervision, but on the other hand they need a sense of independence and self achievement.
It is very tempting, under the guise of "having your child succeed" to step in and actually do their work for them.
This can be detrimental.
Remember justice much is learned by children making mistakes as from having successes.
It is your job as a parent support and encourage your child when they do a particular job well.
It is also your job as a parent to step back and allow children to make their own mistakes and learn from.
There is a lot of parental pride to be gained by watching your child develop as an individual in learning to do things for themselves.
After all, there are many ways to accomplish a task it is a parent's duty to let the child or various ways to both succeed and to fail.
The beauty of it is we can learn from our own children.
When it comes to your child's friends and peers the real trick is to provide guidance and be available for advice and discussion while allowing them to develop their own peer support group.
Sometimes it is hard to stand back and simply be available to your child when you're dying to actually fix the problem.
In the long run however security and confidence your child will gain by knowing that you are there to support them in both successes and failure will create the connectivity that you're looking for.