If you are like me you are constantly trying to find new ways to relieve tension.
Some things like blowing off some steam at a night club, drinking, and screaming at a loved one seem all too familiar.
But they are only temporary stress relievers which are destructive and sometimes just end up making you feel worse the next day.
I am here to tell you some practical ways to relieve tension and to keep it from controlling your life.
If you are too tense, people will not want to be in your company.
You will find yourself alone on a Saturday night watching reruns.
We tend to feed off other people's chi which is the natural energy that saturates all things on this universe, even human beings.
One of the ways we can produce positive chi is by breathing deeply.
Begin by sitting or standing in a relaxed position and breath deeply through your nose while sucking in your abs.
Next, let the air out your nose while counting to 8 and repeat several times.
You should feel an instant relief of tension.
Make time for yourself, even if its just 20 minutes a day.
Turn the TV off, stop surfing the net and checking your email during that time.
Instead, read a book, listen to music, meditate, look up at the stars, or pamper yourself with a massage.
Massages will make you feel more relaxed, but if done too harshly (depending on your body frame) they might actually be painful.
Don't be afraid to speak up if the masseuse is hurting you.
Lastly, intimate conversation can benefit your emotional health and make you feel more connected with the world.
Finding new interests to direct your anger away from negative thoughts and actions is the key to preventing stress from turning into depression.
Join a local social or activities group online or volunteer to meet new people and focus your energy into doing something positive.
Learn a new skill or language, take a class to further your knowledge, or organize group outings to benefit a good cause.
By giving back to your community and others, you will ultimately feel more relaxed and happier.