James Vetta - Date Adult Singles [http://www.dateadultsingles.com]

I think there's a huge underlying problem behind all of these tactics and methods to try to speak to a woman.

I think that instead of people asking the question, "How do I talk to her?"

They should instead ask, "How do I talk to people?"

If you already know how to talk to people and they find you interesting, then it really doesn't pose a challenge to know how to speak to a woman.

The only difference is that the guy just adds sexuality in his conversation.

The problem is that teaching someone how to talk is a core value. It's something that you were taught as a kid.

Look at the most popular guys and all those who have charisma, and you'll see that they were brought up this way.

Then, take a look at all those loners, and all those "losers", and you'll see that they were brought up in a certain way.

I don't want to sound arrogant. But I know that my ability to speak is my greatest strength. And I don't say this out of arrogance, but I think "talking" is a core value.

Try this social experiment. Get the loneliest loser you can think of.

And spend time with him to teach him to be as outgoing as those guys who can talk.

I'll give you 30 days.

What?

All right, I'll give you 60 days.

All right. I'll give you 90 days.

That's right.

It won't work.

I have a friend named Gus. He's a loner and he doesn't know how to talk to people. Then, he goes to a club and he uses these pickup lines to get a woman. But, he's a fool.

I try to get him aside and teach him how to talk.

But you can't teach someone how to talk. It's a core value. Yeah, I know some of you are going to be shaking your heads and disagreeing.

But seriously listen to what I'm saying. If you could never talk to people, how do you expect to talk to women?

And so these losers come to this website and ask, "I'm not outgoing. I'm shy. How do I talk to women?"

And people answer in the same way, "Do this. Be confident. Be this. Be that. Read the Mystery Method. Read this post by _______________"

All for what? You can't teach someone to be outgoing. I want you to get someone who is a social loser and teach him to become popular.

What?

You can't do it.

It's because that's how they were brought up.

You can't teach someone to be outgoing. They either are or they aren't. That's why there isn't a degree in Sales in college. Some people are natural sellers. And some people couldn't sell something even if their life depended on it.

Do you know why I discourage pickup lines and tactics? You hear me ranting about it over and over again.

It's because if you can already talk, you don't have to use someone else's lines.

Look at the best players. Look at the kings. What do they all have in common?

They know how to talk.

I always tell everyone that the best way to talk to a woman is to just act like you know her and that she knows you.

But that advice falls on deaf ears because it sounds too simple.

I always tell everyone that the best way to talk to a woman is to just act like she likes you. To assume attraction.

But that advice falls on deaf ears because it sounds unrealistic.

I always tell everyone that the best way to attain social mastery is to hang out with those who are natural talkers, because you rub off them. Stand around popular and funny talkers for about five years and I guarantee you that you'll learn that attribute from them.

But that advice falls on deaf ears because it doesn't involve any pickup lines and tactics and it sounds too general.

People need pickup lines.

Losers use pickup lines. And pickup lines always lose.

If pickup lines worked, wouldn't everybody who used a pickup line be screwing a woman.

No.

You can go ahead and use your books of pickup lines on that woman.
Meanwhile, I'll go up to the lady and do what I've been taught as a kid.

The problem with pickup lines is that they only work maybe once or twice on the same girl. Then what?

But the natural and genuine ability to speak is something that you SHOULD have been taught as a child.

Being cocky and funny doesn't do a damn thing for you if weren't funny to begin with.

The key to a woman's heart is to make the experience ENJOYABLE. When she speaks with you, you must make her have fun.

Is this hard for you to do?

It shouldn't be.

Or do you find yourself constantly trying harder than other people?

Look, it sounds harsh, but I'll just let you in on the truth.

Self-affirmation is easy. You can eventually train your mind to love yourself and to instill yourself with courage and power.

Handling rejection is feasible. After some time, you learn to make that rejection not sting anymore. It subsides from years to months to days to hours to minutes and then to seconds.

Polishing your appearance is easy. Pretty self-explanatory.

Having the confidence to approach a woman is a skill that you can eventually master. All it takes is some balls.

But the ability to speak is something that you don't learn from books.

It's something that you learned as a kid.

And if you think you can use a seduction book to replace years of social mastery, than I encourage you to do so.

But the truth is, you are outmatched by me. You are outmatched by them. You are outmatched by him. You are outmatched.

Why?

Because we've been doing this since we were children.

You just started now.

And we all know...you can't teach a loser to be popular.