Sometimes, the best course of action is not to act at all.
In learning how to win back an ex girlfriend, this is often the case.
There are some very big pitfalls that most guys fall into during the early stages immediately after a break up.
They make quick moves and act without thinking.
No matter how much you love her or how desperate you are to get her in your arms again, you'll need to avoid the following blunders if you want any chance at fixing your breakup: * Excessively Contacting Her - One of the most common things men do after being dumped is try to stay in touch with their ex as much as possible.
This is a horrendous mistake.
The longer she goes without hearing from or seeing you, the more she'll wonder where you are and what you're doing.
Getting your ex back is all about making her miss you...
and she can't miss you if you're not gone.
Stop contacting your ex.
Don't email her, don't text her, don't bother her at home or at work.
Take a giant step back and find other things to do that will get your mind off of her.
* Sending Flowers, Love Notes, Etc...
- So many guys think they can win back their girlfriend by showering them with gifts, flowers, and handwritten love letters.
All of this stuff is bad.
Not only won't it work, but it's just showing your ex that she now has you wrapped around her little finger.
She LOVES these things you're doing, and she's going to want you to continue to do them.
Therefore she's going to keep your break up going as long and as strong as possible.
Stop professing your undying love for the exgirlfriend who just broke up with you.
You should've done these things while you were still dating, and she knows it.
* Agreeing to Be Friends With Her - This is a big one.
Some guys think that if they can just remain in the ex girlfriend's life at some level or capacity, they'll eventually be able to convince her to take them back.
They hang around as "friends" while their ex moves on with her life, goes out with her own friends, and even meets or dates other guys.
Think about it: do you really want to be friends with your ex? Of course you don't.
You want her back as a girlfriend, or you don't want her back at all.
Don't allow your ex to humiliate you by placing you on a shelf and pulling you out whenever she needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.
During the process of how to get back an ex girlfriend, there's a time and a place to be friendly with your ex again.
Be friends? Never.
* Begging or Pleading - This should go without saying.
You look pathetic, and she's going to lose all respect for you.
This is respect you'll never be able to recover, even if you do end up getting back with your ex again.
Just don't do it.
* Showing Up or Stalking Her - After the shock of getting dumped wears off, many men believe that the key to winning back a girlfriend is physically seeing her.
When they're refused a meeting, some of them resort to seeking out and popping in on an ex-girlfriend.
This can happen at home, at work, or at school - and it's always embarrassing to the poor girl who gets hunted down.
Stalking your ex is one of the surest ways to get her scared of you, and once that happens it's hard to gain her trust again.
The best thing to do is steer clear of your ex for a while.
Breaking contact is one of the fastest ways to get your ex thinking about you again, and before long she might be the one initiating contact.