Trying to Get Your Girl Back? - Mistakes You Do Not Want to Make
Trying to get your girlfriend back will be much harder if you do not get your emotions under control.
Do not make the mistake of feeling sorry for yourself.
This might be of some comfort to you but it will not be at all attractive to your ex girlfriend.
Self pity is all about you and to get your girlfriend back you have to focus on her.
Feeling angry after a break up is also an emotion that could be consuming you.
Maybe you are angry with yourself for not doing things different or you could be angry with your girlfriend for not wanting to be with you.
But showing anger is only going to make your girlfriend afraid of you.
Of course, you are also going to be feeling hurt.
No one likes to be rejected and when it is someone you love it hurts all the more.
It can often bring back memories of all those previous rejections that have happened to you, even the ones that occurred in childhood and have nothing to do with your girlfriend and this relationship.
This can really take over your thinking and you could start to make all kinds of mistakes.
After a break up it is so important to step back and give yourself sometime.
This will help you to work through your emotions and get them under control.
It will also let you think things through and that will give you a better idea of what went wrong with the relationship.
Something was not going right or the breakup would not have happened.
Do not try to blame anyone, try to look at the relationship from both sides.
Sometimes, it helps to ask someone you trust for their opinion on why the relationship went wrong.
People who are not emotionally involved can often see things clearer.
Giving yourself this time will also give your ex girlfriend the space she needs.
If you want to get her back, you will have to give her some time to miss you.
Once you have given yourself the time you need to get your emotions in check, you will be in a better position to get your girl back and will avoid making the mistakes that will push her away.
You will now be able to focus your energy on bringing her back into your life.
If you truly love and want your girlfriend back then she is worth the wait.
You might even come to realize that this is not the girl for you and decide to move on with your life.
Do not make the mistake of feeling sorry for yourself.
This might be of some comfort to you but it will not be at all attractive to your ex girlfriend.
Self pity is all about you and to get your girlfriend back you have to focus on her.
Feeling angry after a break up is also an emotion that could be consuming you.
Maybe you are angry with yourself for not doing things different or you could be angry with your girlfriend for not wanting to be with you.
But showing anger is only going to make your girlfriend afraid of you.
Of course, you are also going to be feeling hurt.
No one likes to be rejected and when it is someone you love it hurts all the more.
It can often bring back memories of all those previous rejections that have happened to you, even the ones that occurred in childhood and have nothing to do with your girlfriend and this relationship.
This can really take over your thinking and you could start to make all kinds of mistakes.
After a break up it is so important to step back and give yourself sometime.
This will help you to work through your emotions and get them under control.
It will also let you think things through and that will give you a better idea of what went wrong with the relationship.
Something was not going right or the breakup would not have happened.
Do not try to blame anyone, try to look at the relationship from both sides.
Sometimes, it helps to ask someone you trust for their opinion on why the relationship went wrong.
People who are not emotionally involved can often see things clearer.
Giving yourself this time will also give your ex girlfriend the space she needs.
If you want to get her back, you will have to give her some time to miss you.
Once you have given yourself the time you need to get your emotions in check, you will be in a better position to get your girl back and will avoid making the mistakes that will push her away.
You will now be able to focus your energy on bringing her back into your life.
If you truly love and want your girlfriend back then she is worth the wait.
You might even come to realize that this is not the girl for you and decide to move on with your life.