The Point of No Communication - Why Some People Never Talk Again With Their Ex
For some people, getting back with your ex may seem like a good idea after a break up, but in some cases this is not entirely the most viable option.
When people break up for a whole variety of reasons and circumstances, the thought of getting back together with their ex is overwhelming, and therefore shows that the person is dependent on their ex for their happiness and purpose in life.
Moving on is never an option for these people.
But some people, after a good or bad break up, resort to doing an NC or No Communication to their ex's.
What does this mean? When certain people do this, they usually do this because they want to move on with their lives by not being in touch with their ex, whether it's in email, SMS, voice calls, IM's and other mediums of communication.
This is of course a very hard thing to do, cutting off someone who you've shared intimate moments with in your life.
There are a number of reasons why people do this and the following reasons listed below are just some of the most widely used reasons: 1.
) Moving on - as stated earlier, people who break up with their partners don't resume communications with their ex's for the sole purpose of moving on.
Getting over someone is not easy when that someone is still in contact with you, triggering every memory you've once shared and this will hurt you when you remember such memories.
2.
) Bruised self esteem - after a break up, self esteem is probably at a low point and for some, this usually results in depression.
People whose self esteem are bruised end up not communicating with their ex for the sake of saving what's left of their self esteem.
You see, recovering from a break up also means putting yourself whole again.
The weighing anchor of an ex still in contact with you, even for friendship's sake, will not do anyone good especially if a person has low self esteem.
3.
) Pride - people often think that they are victims of a break up, even though sometimes it's their fault.
By not admitting to their faults, non communication with their ex is a matter of pride to them.
Their mentality of "It's not my fault so why should I even bother to talk with him/her" keeps them from talking with their ex's and though this is clearly just a defense and coping mechanism from dealing with heartache, it happens to a lot of people.
These are just some of the most widely used reasons why people never talk with their ex's after a break up.
Though getting back together with your ex is an ideal and viable option , it never hurts to think of other options to help you move on with your life and detach yourself from your past relationship and go find happiness in someone new.
When people break up for a whole variety of reasons and circumstances, the thought of getting back together with their ex is overwhelming, and therefore shows that the person is dependent on their ex for their happiness and purpose in life.
Moving on is never an option for these people.
But some people, after a good or bad break up, resort to doing an NC or No Communication to their ex's.
What does this mean? When certain people do this, they usually do this because they want to move on with their lives by not being in touch with their ex, whether it's in email, SMS, voice calls, IM's and other mediums of communication.
This is of course a very hard thing to do, cutting off someone who you've shared intimate moments with in your life.
There are a number of reasons why people do this and the following reasons listed below are just some of the most widely used reasons: 1.
) Moving on - as stated earlier, people who break up with their partners don't resume communications with their ex's for the sole purpose of moving on.
Getting over someone is not easy when that someone is still in contact with you, triggering every memory you've once shared and this will hurt you when you remember such memories.
2.
) Bruised self esteem - after a break up, self esteem is probably at a low point and for some, this usually results in depression.
People whose self esteem are bruised end up not communicating with their ex for the sake of saving what's left of their self esteem.
You see, recovering from a break up also means putting yourself whole again.
The weighing anchor of an ex still in contact with you, even for friendship's sake, will not do anyone good especially if a person has low self esteem.
3.
) Pride - people often think that they are victims of a break up, even though sometimes it's their fault.
By not admitting to their faults, non communication with their ex is a matter of pride to them.
Their mentality of "It's not my fault so why should I even bother to talk with him/her" keeps them from talking with their ex's and though this is clearly just a defense and coping mechanism from dealing with heartache, it happens to a lot of people.
These are just some of the most widely used reasons why people never talk with their ex's after a break up.
Though getting back together with your ex is an ideal and viable option , it never hurts to think of other options to help you move on with your life and detach yourself from your past relationship and go find happiness in someone new.