Finding Forgiveness For Cheating Begins Within
The hardest person in the world for you to forgive for cheating is yourself.
You know just how much you love the person you cheated on and you would never willingly or intentionally cause that person pain.
The problem is that you know how much your cheating hurt the person you love.
Knowing that you are the cause of that pain is hard to handle because you are a good person.
It just goes to show that even good people aren't perfect.
But, how does that help you forgive yourself? It doesn't.
Not really.
But, these things will help you learn to forgive yourself.
1) Get counseling.
There is one reason that beats all others for going to counseling.
In counseling you will learn that you aren't some evil horrible person.
Everyone makes mistakes.
It's how you deal with those mistakes that will define you as a person.
Cheating is a big mistake to overcome and move beyond but it can be done.
Having someone on your side like a counselor will help you feel better about yourself and gain some perspective on your reasons for cheating.
2) Accentuate the positive.
Learn to identify your strengths as well as your weaknesses.
The world is about balance.
We all have good and bad inside us.
The ancient Chinese referred to it as yin and yang.
Your strengths will not "make up" for your weaknesses but they can help you view them in a different way, which will allow you to find the forgiveness you need within yourself.
3) Forgive the person you cheated on.
Oh yes, deep down inside you have issues with the person you love.
Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
You may even be subconsciously clinging to those negative feelings as a way of protecting yourself from getting hurt if your husband or wife ultimately decides to end the relationship over your cheating.
Once you forgive the other person you'll find it is much easier to forgive yourself.
4) Become the person you want to be.
Gandhi said we have to be the change we want to see.
He was talking on a much more global scale but if you want forgiveness from others you must first forgive yourself and others.
The more you practice the fine art of forgiveness, the easier and more natural it will feel to forgive-even when it comes to forgiving yourself.
You know just how much you love the person you cheated on and you would never willingly or intentionally cause that person pain.
The problem is that you know how much your cheating hurt the person you love.
Knowing that you are the cause of that pain is hard to handle because you are a good person.
It just goes to show that even good people aren't perfect.
But, how does that help you forgive yourself? It doesn't.
Not really.
But, these things will help you learn to forgive yourself.
1) Get counseling.
There is one reason that beats all others for going to counseling.
In counseling you will learn that you aren't some evil horrible person.
Everyone makes mistakes.
It's how you deal with those mistakes that will define you as a person.
Cheating is a big mistake to overcome and move beyond but it can be done.
Having someone on your side like a counselor will help you feel better about yourself and gain some perspective on your reasons for cheating.
2) Accentuate the positive.
Learn to identify your strengths as well as your weaknesses.
The world is about balance.
We all have good and bad inside us.
The ancient Chinese referred to it as yin and yang.
Your strengths will not "make up" for your weaknesses but they can help you view them in a different way, which will allow you to find the forgiveness you need within yourself.
3) Forgive the person you cheated on.
Oh yes, deep down inside you have issues with the person you love.
Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
You may even be subconsciously clinging to those negative feelings as a way of protecting yourself from getting hurt if your husband or wife ultimately decides to end the relationship over your cheating.
Once you forgive the other person you'll find it is much easier to forgive yourself.
4) Become the person you want to be.
Gandhi said we have to be the change we want to see.
He was talking on a much more global scale but if you want forgiveness from others you must first forgive yourself and others.
The more you practice the fine art of forgiveness, the easier and more natural it will feel to forgive-even when it comes to forgiving yourself.