How to Get Your Ex Back - 95 Percent of All Break Ups Can Be Repaired - Don"t Play the Blame Game
She made me do it! Yeah, but he started it! People break up for a seemingly endless list of reasons.
But no matter what causes the breakup, it appears that most folks start to blame the other with reckless abandon.
In addition to the blame, one party usually feels that the other party is 100% at fault.
Throw in a few sympathetic friends and or relatives, and you now have a fight that could last through the next two sets of great-grandchildren.
However, there is a way to end this fighting if you are serious about the relationship and you want to get your ex back.
And it is brilliantly simple, but a lot of people will have a problem putting it into action.
To sum it up, the old cliche works best "it takes two to tango.
" Yes that is trite and over used, but it is absolutely true.
Very rarely can a break-up be attributed to only one person.
There is usually enough blame to share without running out.
Merriam Webster dictionary defines a relation (root word for relationship) as "an aspect or quality that connects two or more things or parts as being or belonging or working together.
" Pay close attention to the end of the definition, "working together.
" If you and your partner have any hope of making things work between you, it will only result from a concentrated effort where both of you are heading towards the same goal.
Both of you have to be of the mindset that if something is bad for your relationship, then you don't want to take part in it.
You also have to pursue things that will strengthen your bond.
This does not mean that you shut out your friends and your only activities occurs with your partner.
It seemly means communicating more and being committed to putting the other person first.
So, how do you stop the blame game and get back on the right track? Approach your partner with the following statement, paraphrased in your own words: "Sweetheart, can we talk? I feel like I have messed up and I want to make it right?" Sounds difficult, right? This does not indicate that you take the blame for everything that has gone wrong.
On the contrary, this allows you the opportunity to take responsibility for your portion, and gives your partner a chance to reply and do the same.
It does not mean you are weak simply because you gave in first.
It means you are strong because the good of the relationship is more important than getting your way.
But no matter what causes the breakup, it appears that most folks start to blame the other with reckless abandon.
In addition to the blame, one party usually feels that the other party is 100% at fault.
Throw in a few sympathetic friends and or relatives, and you now have a fight that could last through the next two sets of great-grandchildren.
However, there is a way to end this fighting if you are serious about the relationship and you want to get your ex back.
And it is brilliantly simple, but a lot of people will have a problem putting it into action.
To sum it up, the old cliche works best "it takes two to tango.
" Yes that is trite and over used, but it is absolutely true.
Very rarely can a break-up be attributed to only one person.
There is usually enough blame to share without running out.
Merriam Webster dictionary defines a relation (root word for relationship) as "an aspect or quality that connects two or more things or parts as being or belonging or working together.
" Pay close attention to the end of the definition, "working together.
" If you and your partner have any hope of making things work between you, it will only result from a concentrated effort where both of you are heading towards the same goal.
Both of you have to be of the mindset that if something is bad for your relationship, then you don't want to take part in it.
You also have to pursue things that will strengthen your bond.
This does not mean that you shut out your friends and your only activities occurs with your partner.
It seemly means communicating more and being committed to putting the other person first.
So, how do you stop the blame game and get back on the right track? Approach your partner with the following statement, paraphrased in your own words: "Sweetheart, can we talk? I feel like I have messed up and I want to make it right?" Sounds difficult, right? This does not indicate that you take the blame for everything that has gone wrong.
On the contrary, this allows you the opportunity to take responsibility for your portion, and gives your partner a chance to reply and do the same.
It does not mean you are weak simply because you gave in first.
It means you are strong because the good of the relationship is more important than getting your way.