Breaking Up Rules - 5 You Should Follow If You Want Your Ex Back
Just broke up with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Scared you're going to make a mistake? Unfortunately, it's very easy to screw up; especially if you're trying to win them back.
Here are 5 rules you should always keep in mind whenever you're seeing or speaking to your ex: 1.
Don't Pester Them - It's very tempting to keep phoning your ex.
Either because you want to convince them to take you back or because you just feel good whenever you hear their voice.
But it's hardly ever worth it.
Chances are you will say something that will just make things worse.
If you give them a chance to miss you and think things over, you'll have better results later on.
Do your best to have patience.
2.
Don't Keep Dropping The "L" Bomb - If you always told them you loved them during the relationship, why would saying it afterwards make any difference? If you keep telling them after the relationship has ended, they're going to see you as needy.
Not attractive.
Keep it to yourself, even if you do have an overwhelming urge to tell them.
3.
Don't Spy On Them - Do they have a MySpace or other social network profile? If so, avoid it at all costs! You're not going to do yourself any favours by checking it constantly to see if they've found a new lover or if they're writing about you.
Just let it go.
I've seen so many people doing so well at getting over a break up, only to look at a profile, see photos of their ex with a new lover and become devastated.
It's like taking a knife to a healed scar and then stuffing the wound with salt.
It'll not only send you back to the starting line, but ten metres behind it too.
Not good.
4.
Don't Wait - There's no rule that says you can't go out with someone new after a break up.
Your ex will, even if they say they won't.
Don't wait for them to come back.
If you see new people, it will give your mind a break and give your mind a chance to think about everything.
You might not even want your ex back.
Maybe you're just scared of being single? Maybe you just want someone to be with? There are tons of other potential lovers out there.
5.
Don't Get Deep - If they want to start hanging out with you again, don't screw it up! They don't want to get into deep stuff.
This is an amazing chance for you to win them back.
Treat it like a first date.
Make them laugh, smile, and stimulate their mind.
Make yourself appealing to them again.
Make them feel good.
If they remember why they became attracted to you in the first place, you might trigger the same emotions and then you're set.
If you're ever unsure about saying something or doing something, just ask yourself; "Will I regret this later?" Resist saying things in the moment.
Remember, they aren't your lover anymore and if they're scared of hanging out with you because they're worried you're going to "go all soppy on them", you're going to ruin your chances.
Respect them as a person and treat them as a friend or a potential love partner.
Flirt playfully, and make them laugh.
If you can remind them how fun you are, you're going to find them surprisingly attracted towards you again.
Just believe in yourself!
Here are 5 rules you should always keep in mind whenever you're seeing or speaking to your ex: 1.
Don't Pester Them - It's very tempting to keep phoning your ex.
Either because you want to convince them to take you back or because you just feel good whenever you hear their voice.
But it's hardly ever worth it.
Chances are you will say something that will just make things worse.
If you give them a chance to miss you and think things over, you'll have better results later on.
Do your best to have patience.
2.
Don't Keep Dropping The "L" Bomb - If you always told them you loved them during the relationship, why would saying it afterwards make any difference? If you keep telling them after the relationship has ended, they're going to see you as needy.
Not attractive.
Keep it to yourself, even if you do have an overwhelming urge to tell them.
3.
Don't Spy On Them - Do they have a MySpace or other social network profile? If so, avoid it at all costs! You're not going to do yourself any favours by checking it constantly to see if they've found a new lover or if they're writing about you.
Just let it go.
I've seen so many people doing so well at getting over a break up, only to look at a profile, see photos of their ex with a new lover and become devastated.
It's like taking a knife to a healed scar and then stuffing the wound with salt.
It'll not only send you back to the starting line, but ten metres behind it too.
Not good.
4.
Don't Wait - There's no rule that says you can't go out with someone new after a break up.
Your ex will, even if they say they won't.
Don't wait for them to come back.
If you see new people, it will give your mind a break and give your mind a chance to think about everything.
You might not even want your ex back.
Maybe you're just scared of being single? Maybe you just want someone to be with? There are tons of other potential lovers out there.
5.
Don't Get Deep - If they want to start hanging out with you again, don't screw it up! They don't want to get into deep stuff.
This is an amazing chance for you to win them back.
Treat it like a first date.
Make them laugh, smile, and stimulate their mind.
Make yourself appealing to them again.
Make them feel good.
If they remember why they became attracted to you in the first place, you might trigger the same emotions and then you're set.
If you're ever unsure about saying something or doing something, just ask yourself; "Will I regret this later?" Resist saying things in the moment.
Remember, they aren't your lover anymore and if they're scared of hanging out with you because they're worried you're going to "go all soppy on them", you're going to ruin your chances.
Respect them as a person and treat them as a friend or a potential love partner.
Flirt playfully, and make them laugh.
If you can remind them how fun you are, you're going to find them surprisingly attracted towards you again.
Just believe in yourself!