Freedom From Intimacy: How To Get Your Ex Back Using The Free-Spirited Way!
Here's a reason why break-ups are so messy: blame it on our evolution...
or, more appropriately, the lack of it.
You may have noticed it before, but the drive to "belong" to a certain entity or group is what defines us not only as humans, but as part of the larger species of beings living in this planet.
That's why we go to choir practice on Saturdays.
That's why we have our own "cliques" (well, this may seem too high school-ish, but you get the point).
And, more importantly, that's why we're always on the prowl looking for the right people to share our lives with.
So, if you have ever experienced breaking up with someone, don't be confused as to why you feel like you've just been banished and left to wander alone in the desert for forty years.
Yup, that's how epic our break-ups may seem to us, particularly if we're part of the "aggrieved" party.
Now, while it may be socially permissible that you-as the recent gangland victim of a break-up-should be allowed ample time to grieve, there just come a point where you have to stop yourself and think: "Is all this self-pity helping me at all?".
The short and brutal answer is...
no.
If your life is like a romantic movie (but better go for romantic comedies if you don't want your audience to be bored), then this is supposed to be the part of the screenplay where your best friend slaps you silly out of your misery and where your two-minute musical montage to emotional recovery begins.
Here's a secret you may not know about your ex: if you think you're feeling miserable after your break-up, there's a 9000% chance that your ex may be feeling doubly the same emotions as you are (Yeah, the stats may not count as being plausible, but allow this humble messenger some leeway, will you?).
How can you be sure of that? Well, remember that "belonging" instinct I just talked about earlier? No matter how insensitive you think a person may be, it only takes a little prodding before s/he confesses how despondent s/he is without you.
So, what kind of "prodding" are we talking about? Quite simple, really: just let go of everything that you feel has been dragging you down ever since that momentous break-up of yours.
It may be as simple as cutting your hair (it's clichéd, but really, there's no better feeling of "letting go" than cutting your hair), or it may even be making yourself as "available" to outside engagements as much as possible, even if those aren't related to dating, per se.
The bottom line in all of this? Just live your life the way you meant and want it to be.
Seriously, waiting for someone to come back to you won't make any matters better for you in the long run.
I can only imagine your reaction by now-"That's it?! Just some carpe diem, live-by-the-moment advice?!".
Well...
of course, yes; most things aren't as complicated as we make it out to be-heck, even Clinton's campaign manager during the mid-'90s knew that well enough to make a slogan out of it (Google it).
Patience, to paraphrase from an ancient Chinese philosopher who I can't be bothered to research at the moment since there's a chance you may already know him, is the hardest of virtues to follow, but it may be the one thing where it can offer the greater rewards.
If your ex saw how well you have been handling yourself after your break-up, s/he will only be reminded of why s/he was attracted to you in the first place.
Yeah, it may seem silly at first, but better believe that things just fall into their rightful places-if your ex really want to rekindle his/her relationship with you, just wait for him/her to initiate the first contact with you.
So...
if you're experiencing the break-up blues, stop moping already! Nothing screams "attractive" more than a person who is into fully living his/her life at the moment.
or, more appropriately, the lack of it.
You may have noticed it before, but the drive to "belong" to a certain entity or group is what defines us not only as humans, but as part of the larger species of beings living in this planet.
That's why we go to choir practice on Saturdays.
That's why we have our own "cliques" (well, this may seem too high school-ish, but you get the point).
And, more importantly, that's why we're always on the prowl looking for the right people to share our lives with.
So, if you have ever experienced breaking up with someone, don't be confused as to why you feel like you've just been banished and left to wander alone in the desert for forty years.
Yup, that's how epic our break-ups may seem to us, particularly if we're part of the "aggrieved" party.
Now, while it may be socially permissible that you-as the recent gangland victim of a break-up-should be allowed ample time to grieve, there just come a point where you have to stop yourself and think: "Is all this self-pity helping me at all?".
The short and brutal answer is...
no.
If your life is like a romantic movie (but better go for romantic comedies if you don't want your audience to be bored), then this is supposed to be the part of the screenplay where your best friend slaps you silly out of your misery and where your two-minute musical montage to emotional recovery begins.
Here's a secret you may not know about your ex: if you think you're feeling miserable after your break-up, there's a 9000% chance that your ex may be feeling doubly the same emotions as you are (Yeah, the stats may not count as being plausible, but allow this humble messenger some leeway, will you?).
How can you be sure of that? Well, remember that "belonging" instinct I just talked about earlier? No matter how insensitive you think a person may be, it only takes a little prodding before s/he confesses how despondent s/he is without you.
So, what kind of "prodding" are we talking about? Quite simple, really: just let go of everything that you feel has been dragging you down ever since that momentous break-up of yours.
It may be as simple as cutting your hair (it's clichéd, but really, there's no better feeling of "letting go" than cutting your hair), or it may even be making yourself as "available" to outside engagements as much as possible, even if those aren't related to dating, per se.
The bottom line in all of this? Just live your life the way you meant and want it to be.
Seriously, waiting for someone to come back to you won't make any matters better for you in the long run.
I can only imagine your reaction by now-"That's it?! Just some carpe diem, live-by-the-moment advice?!".
Well...
of course, yes; most things aren't as complicated as we make it out to be-heck, even Clinton's campaign manager during the mid-'90s knew that well enough to make a slogan out of it (Google it).
Patience, to paraphrase from an ancient Chinese philosopher who I can't be bothered to research at the moment since there's a chance you may already know him, is the hardest of virtues to follow, but it may be the one thing where it can offer the greater rewards.
If your ex saw how well you have been handling yourself after your break-up, s/he will only be reminded of why s/he was attracted to you in the first place.
Yeah, it may seem silly at first, but better believe that things just fall into their rightful places-if your ex really want to rekindle his/her relationship with you, just wait for him/her to initiate the first contact with you.
So...
if you're experiencing the break-up blues, stop moping already! Nothing screams "attractive" more than a person who is into fully living his/her life at the moment.