Don"t Take Guilt Trips
It is tempting to want to make our ex lover feel guilty for the hurt that has been inflicted upon us.
However this is yet another mistake many of us make whilst dealing with the intense emotions of a break-up.
Guilt, like jealousy is another form of manipulation and an attempt to control the other person.
In terms of using guilt to get your lover back, this will not be successful.
Besides you do not want your lover to come back because they feel guilty.
You deserve real love, not a love based on guilt.
A relationship that exists because of guilty feelings will not survive.
Your ex will eventually realize that they are wasting their time and energy feeling guilty and they will eventually claim their freedom.
Guilt is the ultimate wasted emotion.
Yet we all seem to waste a lot of time feeling guilty.
What is that about? You may suffer from some kind of physical or mental illness and you may have relied heavily on your ex for support and care.
When that support and care is suddenly taken away, you may panic and wonder how you are going to cope.
It is normal to want to make your ex feel guilty for abandoning you.
However this will not encourage them to stick around.
It will only cause them to resent you and this is not what you want.
Using guilt to manipulate your ex to stay with you will cause mistrust, and we all know every solid relationship is built on trust.
Trust is not given freely, it must be earned.
How hard to think it will be to earn the trust back, if you break it in this way.
It will be almost impossible.
Always remember that love is given freely without expectation of anything in return.
Apply this principle to your life from now on, and you will see a definite improvement in all of your relationships.
If your ex can see that you are a loving and giving person who does not have expectation of a payback, he or she will feel more drawn to you in the long run and you will have this opportunity, once you have done the work you need to, to get your life back where it should be.
Nothing good can come from using guilt to get what you want from your ex or in any of your relationships, for that matter.
When you want something from someone, use loving actions and words, and do not be tempted to resort to guilt trips, if their answer is no.
Copyright © 2007 Janelle Coulton Fix Your Broken Heart And Discover The Powerful Hidden Secrets To Stop Thinking About Your Ex Once And For Good! Get Your Free 'Biggest Break up Mistakes' Mini-Course.
Go to: WinBackLove
However this is yet another mistake many of us make whilst dealing with the intense emotions of a break-up.
Guilt, like jealousy is another form of manipulation and an attempt to control the other person.
In terms of using guilt to get your lover back, this will not be successful.
Besides you do not want your lover to come back because they feel guilty.
You deserve real love, not a love based on guilt.
A relationship that exists because of guilty feelings will not survive.
Your ex will eventually realize that they are wasting their time and energy feeling guilty and they will eventually claim their freedom.
Guilt is the ultimate wasted emotion.
Yet we all seem to waste a lot of time feeling guilty.
What is that about? You may suffer from some kind of physical or mental illness and you may have relied heavily on your ex for support and care.
When that support and care is suddenly taken away, you may panic and wonder how you are going to cope.
It is normal to want to make your ex feel guilty for abandoning you.
However this will not encourage them to stick around.
It will only cause them to resent you and this is not what you want.
Using guilt to manipulate your ex to stay with you will cause mistrust, and we all know every solid relationship is built on trust.
Trust is not given freely, it must be earned.
How hard to think it will be to earn the trust back, if you break it in this way.
It will be almost impossible.
Always remember that love is given freely without expectation of anything in return.
Apply this principle to your life from now on, and you will see a definite improvement in all of your relationships.
If your ex can see that you are a loving and giving person who does not have expectation of a payback, he or she will feel more drawn to you in the long run and you will have this opportunity, once you have done the work you need to, to get your life back where it should be.
Nothing good can come from using guilt to get what you want from your ex or in any of your relationships, for that matter.
When you want something from someone, use loving actions and words, and do not be tempted to resort to guilt trips, if their answer is no.
Copyright © 2007 Janelle Coulton Fix Your Broken Heart And Discover The Powerful Hidden Secrets To Stop Thinking About Your Ex Once And For Good! Get Your Free 'Biggest Break up Mistakes' Mini-Course.
Go to: WinBackLove